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Powerpuff Girls

Have you met your BFF(s)? BFF means Best Friend(s) Forever?

In my life as a college student, I met 2 friends (Ces and Jen) whom I considered my best friends and sisters as well. Most of our classmates often called us “The Powerpuff Girls”.

The Powerpuff Girls was an American animated television series about three kindergarten-aged girls who have superpowers.


Blossom

She is "the smart one" and self-proclaimed leader of the Powerpuff Girls.

Her signature color is pink, and she has long red hair with a red bow.

She was named for having spoken freely and honestly to the Professor shortly after her creation.

She is often seen as the most mature, level-headed, and composed member of the group, although she can at times be fussy, overbearing, vain, and too analytical.

She tends to "parent" Bubbles and Buttercup, and often tries to play peacemaker between the two if they fight (though she is very quick to argue with Buttercup).

Blossom’s personality is like Ces’: She is a very caring, loving, sweet and jolly girl. She is the reason why I learned how to put on make-up on my face. She is funny in her own little way.

Bubbles

She is "the cute one".

Her signature color is light blue, and she has short blond hair in two pigtails.

She was named for her cute and bubbly personality.

She tends to act like the baby of the group, despite being the same age. Her best friend is a stuffed octopus doll she calls "Octi".

She displays and is defined by innocence, playfulness, and a gentle demeanor, having a tendency to be naïve, ditzy, submissive, shy, and sensitive.

She is also more loving to her father figure, Professor Utonium. These latter qualities lead to her often being regarded, by friends and foes alike, as the group's "baby" or weak link.

She can become very independent and aggressive when pushed, however, and among the girls, she is most feared by Mojo Jojo after having single-handedly taken him down in a fit of rage in the episode "Bubblevicious". She also loves to color, draw, and sing.

Bubbles personality match Jen’s: She is a very jolly and frank girl. She’ll tell you if you have your bad hair day or if you have a good one. She speaks her mind. She tends to act as a baby sister since she’s the youngest in her family, but I’m the youngest among us three ha-ha. She’s my twin sister. Most of the times, people will ask us if were sisters because we look the same as if we’re twins.

Buttercup

She is "the tough one".

Her signature color is light green, and she has short black hair in a flip.

She was named because "Buttercup" begins with the letter "B" like her sisters, much to her chagrin.

She is a tomboy and has a very short temper. Sometimes her aggression gets the better of her, making her reckless and stubborn.

She possesses a mean and somewhat vindictive streak not shared by her sisters. She has, however, shown a softer side in several episodes. For example, in the episode "Cover Up", she had a soft green blanket that she was obsessed with that she would hug that gave her the confidence to be a better fighter, and she is quite protective over her sisters. She hates baths and loves getting dirty.

While Buttercup is the only Powerpuff Girl without a unique power, she is the toughest.

Buttercup is Ghee...Me! I’m quite snobbish and protective friend. When they’re asking for advice for their love problem I will normally tell them first the negative side of the situation, but later on, I will eventually share with them the positive side. At the end, I’ll let them decide for their self since my advices were just my opinions anyways.

We were classmates since first year in college. They first met each other then after few days, I realized they are nice to be with and so our friendship begins.

I can describe our relationship to be “REAL”. There were no pretensions. If someone is mad, she will not act okay. If someone wants to cry, she will cry. If someone’s annoyed, she’ll tell it. If someone’s happy, it will obviously show.

During lunch break, we eat together talking anything under the sun. During break time, we find time to retouch, take pictures together, go to CR together, go to library or internet café, just about anything as long as we’re together.

When we don’t have classes, we go to mall to shop, eat, and sing on the videoke, or just to walk and chat together…again, together ha-ha

During our PE class, I always feel so clumsy! Ha-ha... They’re both good in sports and in PE activities while I’m always girly and clumsy.

There are also times when someone is loveless and the two were so in love. Most of the time it is I who is loveless because they’re happy with they’re long time boyfriend. I envy them by having someone who never gave up on them no matter how difficult the problem on their relationship was. They really know how to make a relationship last.

We had so many memories together. We had misunderstandings that were all resolved because of our love for each other. We have so many secrets that until now we keep. We have so many things that we value in our life. We’ve been through a lot during our college days.

Happiness, sadness, madness, craziness, these are just some of the emotions that we've shared together.

After graduation, we still managed to communicate thru online or text messaging. When our schedules match, then we usually meet to catch up with the things that happen in our lives. Sometimes I miss the times when we ALWAYS see each other and do anything under the sun…we were so happy back then…we go anywhere, do anything, laugh just about anything.

I will be forever grateful that God let me meet true friends like them. They’re my BFF! They’re the reason why I feel excited to go to school every day when I was a student. Even until now, though we can’t always see each other…we know in some ways, we still value what we had and what we have now. I’m looking forward to spending my life with them as my sisters.

They're really my girlfriends! They love me at my best...but valued me even more when they saw me at my worst. (Sounds familiar? Yeah it’s similar to a Filipino movie line “One More Chance”)

We will do everything that we can so that our friendship will last forever. For better or for worse, I’ll make sure we will stay together. We might not be sisters by blood…but we are…by heart.

Note: We call each one of us “siz”, short for “sister”

Source: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Powerpuff_Girls

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Keep yourself HAPPY



100-ways-to-keep-yourself-happy

1. Never put yourself last.

2. When you extend a helping hand to one person, be careful not to kick someone else in the teeth.

3. Always own a pair of old, faded jeans.

4. Count your blessings every day.

5. Acknowledge your successes along with your downfalls.

6. Burn the candle that has been in storage for the last two years.

7. Strive for progress, not perfection.

8. Remember, the voice telling you that you cannot do something is always lying.

9. At least once a day sit and do nothing.

10. Don't close your heart so tightly against life's pain that you shut out life's blessings.

11. Celebrate all your birthdays no matter how old you get.

12. Examine your life for limitations and ask yourself why you put them there.

13. Plant a tree, pull weeds, or get your hands dirty.

14. Diminish your wants instead of increasing your needs.

15. Cry when you feel like it.

16. Rejoice in other people's triumphs.

17. Don't wait for someone else to laugh or express joy.

18. Forgive yourself for any mistake you make, no matter how big or small.

19. Keep good company.

20. Never take a pill for a pain you need to feel.

21. Use your enthusiasm to put yourself in forward gear and give yourself a spark to move ahead.

22. Look in the eyes of the ones you love when you are talking to them.

23. Remember that one is a whole number.

24. Walk in a summer rain shower without an umbrella.

25. Do a kind deed for someone else.

26. Keep your eyes and ears open to get the messages you need from people and events in your daily life.

27. Be patient.

28. Eat something green.

29. Change what you can and leave the rest alone.

30. Walk hand and hand with truth.

31. Make laughter and joy a greater part of your life than anger and grief.

32. Embrace solitude instead of running from it.

33. Be zealous, not jealous.

34. Forgive anyone you've been holding a grudge against.

35. Slow down and enjoy the present.

36. Walk in others' shoes before judging them.

37. Send yourself a kind message.

38. Remind yourself that the company you keep is a reflection of what you think of yourself.

39. Go on a picnic.

40. Accept your fears, no matter how crazy they seem.

41. Don't let other people's opinions shape who you are.

42. Say a prayer.

43. Never attribute your accomplishments to luck or chance.

44. Know when to say no.

45. Look at the positive side of negative situation.

46. Remember that you are a spiritual being in a physical body.

47. Avoid seeking out other people for constant approval, because it make them the master and you the slave.

48. Go fly a kite.

49. Avoid fads and bandwagons.

50. Accept the things you cannot change.

51. Look inside instead of outside yourself for answers to life's problems.

52. Remember that all feelings are okay.

53. Shield yourself from bad influences.

54. Stand up for what you believe in.

55. Respect the wishes of others when they say no.

56. Seize every moment and live it fully.

57. Give away or sell anything you haven't used in the past five years.

58. Never downgrade yourself.

59. Take responsibility for what you think, feel, and do.

60. Pamper yourself.

61. Never say or do anything abusive to a child.

62. Let yourself be God powered instead of flying solo.

63. Volunteer to help someone in need.

64. Refrain from overindulging in food, drink, and work

65. Finish unfinished business.

66. Be spontaneous.

67. Find a constructive outlet for your anger.

68. Think about abundance instead of lack, because whatever you think about expands.

69. Think of yourself as a survivor, not a victim.

70. Cuddle an animal.

71. Be open to life.

72. See success as something you already have, not something you must attain.

73. Experience the splendor and awe of a sunset.

74. When you score a base hit, don't wish it was a home run.

75. Learn to be in the present moment.

76. Instead of believing in miracles, depend on them.

77. Take a child to the circus.

78. Change your attitude and your whole life will change.

79. Never turn your power over to another person.

80. When your heart is at odds with your head, follow your heart.

81. Always remember that the past is gone forever and the future never comes.

82. Live your life according to what is right for you.

83. Acknowledge your imperfections.

84. Plant a tree and watch it grow.

85. See "friend" instead of "enemy" on the face of strangers.

86. Watch an army of ants build their houses and cities and carry food ten times their weight.

87. Believe in something bigger than yourself.

88. Let the playful child within you come out.

89. Make haste slowly.

90. Work through your problems step by step and one day at a time.

91. Accept compliments from others so you can see the truth about yourself.

92. Sit on the lawn without worrying about grass stains.

93. Don't condemn yourself for your imperfections.

94. Do humility check periodically by loving the truth about yourself.

95. Tell someone you appreciate them.

96. Never live your life according to what is right for someone else.

97. Talk less and listen more.

98. Admit your wrongdoing and forgive yourself for it.

99. Thrive on inner peace instead of on crises.

100. Affirm all the good things about yourself.

Source:
http://www.howtoliveonline.com/2007/12/100-ways-to-keep-yourself-happy.html

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Long Distance Love


Loving from a distance is never easy,
When you are living so very far apart.
But each mile that separates two people who truly care,
Is joined together with the love each feels in their heart.

The loneliness you feel when you are not together,
Can eat away at you deep inside.
When you miss the one who you want to share your life with,
And they are not able to be by your side.

Have trust in each other's feelings,
And believe that they do feel the same way as you.
When you cannot be with one another,
So easy it is to doubt whether their love is really true.

Need to keep your faith that you have in each other,
And never let go of your trust.
Sometimes that is not so easy to do,
But for your peace of mind, it really is a must.

Think of one another's emotional needs,
So the other always knows that you do care.
Make the most of the time that you can have together,
And open your hearts and share.

Respect one another will sometimes need some space,
But it doesn't mean they don't want you around.
We all need some time on our own at times,
Never meaning we no longer need the love we have found.

Do not let the seeds of jealousy,
Begin growing deep inside your heart.
Because if you let this happen without good cause,
Your relationship will surely be doomed to fall apart.

Be honest and open with how you are feeling,
And never lead the other one on.
It is unfair to play on another person's feelings,
And then turn around one day, and be gone.

Never give up on your love,
And hold on to what you are feeling in your heart.
For a love that is sincere, and strong,
Will be held together, no matter how far you are apart.

Source: http://www.netpakistani.com/community/forums/17/1/21242/

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Why Stay in a LDR?

10 reasons to stay in a long distance relationship



I’ve read a lot of articles and books that talk about whether or not you should start a long distance relationship. I always thought that was weird. If you like each other enough (keyword being ‘enough’), and you don’t live in the same area (either when you meet or for any stretch of time after meeting), then you will just kinda find yourself with no choice! At least that’s my experience. However, at some point, you might start to wonder if it’s really worth continuing it. Here are some reasons to keep going…

10: That first hug when you eventually do see each other

9: Independence (especially when you see your friends in controlling & bad relationships)

8: Free room and board in a different city

7: Picturing your life together. It will happen eventually. And it will be amazing.

6: Regular emails/IMs telling you how wonderful, smart, funny and intelligent you are

5: Thinking about how wonderful, smart, funny and intelligent your partner is

4: Your partners smell (you know you love it!)

3: Those late night conversations where you feel so close and so connected and so in love

2: Always knowing there is someone out there who loves and misses you

1: Because your life is better with your partner in it. Period.

Source: http://www.coupledtogether.com/blog/?cat=27

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Love beyond distance

How to not let your love life get affected by distances…


Trust Your Partner

More than any other relationship, a long distance relationship needs individuals to immensely trust each other. If you really love your partner then trust him/her and do not let distance be a reason to affect it. If you show faith in them, they will respond and will be willing to put faith in you. Do not doubt or question your partner in situations which you would have otherwise been okay with.

Make it Special

You would have showered your beloved with gifts, dinners and cards. So, why not do it when your special one is hundreds of miles away. It always brings a smile to the face of the other person when you send them letters, gifts and flowers. Create special hand-made gifts, plan surprises or write long letters- things that you might not be able to do if you are together! (lack of time and continuous presence). It tells them how much you think about them and miss them. Do it on special occasions like birthdays and valentine’s day but also do it when you feel you want to do it!

Talk

A long distance relationship moves ahead on the ability of two people to talk to each other. Leave no room for miscommunication. Talk about your feelings and let the other person know that you miss them, crave for them and love them. Give detailed descriptions of your daily activities and people you met- talk about everything under the sun!

Connect Beyond the Physical

Look at the positives of a long distance romance. It is a perfect opportunity for you to connect with your partner at an emotional level. Usually when two people are physically together, a lot of things are taken for granted! You have the chance to know your partner at a deeper level by talking about the smallest emotion. Remember, love is not only a physical bond but also an emotional one so make sure that the physical absence opens doors for an emotional bonding between you both!

Time

Instead of sulking over not being able to go for a movie together, think about all the things that you can do to tell him/her that you love him/her. Give your special one your time. Just because he is not next to you doesn’t mean he/she doesn’t need your it, in-fact they need more time, love and affection than ever! Call them as often as you can and if your time-zones are different then given them a wakeup call or simply call them at the middle of the night to tell them that you miss them! Remember, even 5 minutes of your time can make a lot of difference!

Be Occupied

Remember, an idle mind can be a devil’s workshop! Yes, long intervals of separations can be demanding but all you need is to be slightly patient and one thing that certainly helps is to keep yourself occupied in different activities. Do not let your mind wander and instead keep yourself engaged in something creative. You will eventually realize that not only you are utilizing your time for good but also that the activity is giving you more fodder to chew on because you not just learn something new but by meeting new people you are also expanding your social circle thus gathering quite a bit of gossip!

Plan Your Next Meeting

Plan about his or your next trip. Discuss the various things that you want to do and make a wish-list. Talk about it frequently and show excitement. It not only helps you feel better but also tells the other person that you are excited about the meeting and gives him/her a reason to look forward to it thus leading to a very enjoyable and memorable meeting!

Don’t Give into Temptations

It’s very easy to get distracted in the absence of your partner. There are scores of young men and women all around you and when you look at your friends and peers hanging around with their partners, you certainly feel the pinch. It is at this time that you need to realize how important your partner for you is. If he/she is someone that you cherish for life then just hold on and don’t yield to temptations. A weak moment now can just ruin your relationship and probably your entire life!

Make Use of Technology

In today’s times, it has become so easy to connect with people all around the world! You can chat, send e-cards, see each other on webcam, talk on VOIP phones, use voice chats and even play online games! So, go ahead, experiment and make use of the latest technology to connect and spice your love life in a way that normal couples cannot do!

Be Rational

You will gain nothing by constant cribbing, nagging and complaining. Remember that your partner is going through the same emotions that you are and that he is going through the same turmoil. Your constant complaints will only add to his problems and might force him/her to call quits. Do let him/her know when you feel down but that is not the only thing you should talk about all the time. Be rational, stay strong and always remember that there will be a time that you both will be together….forever!

"'I don't care about the distance...I just care about you."

Source: http://socyberty.com/relationships/so-what-makes-a-long-distance-relationship-work/

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How to Make a LDR Work

LDR means Long Distance Relationship. Here is an article I've read in wikihow site on How to Make a Long Distance Relationship Work.


It is hard enough to make local relationships work, but having miles, states, and sometimes even an ocean between you makes it even more difficult. However, successful long distance relationships can and do exist. It will survive as long as you are willing to work it out. Here's how to give yours every chance to survive and thrive.

1. Ask the important questions at the onset, to make sure you are both clear on the parameters of the relationship. Setting parameters such as naming your relationship (dating, seeing each other, boyfriend/girlfriend, engaged) as well as defining exclusive (limited to one person,) or non-exclusive. These can be difficult and awkward questions to ask, but will save you great heartache and misunderstanding down the line. Example: "Are you open to the possibility of relocating if the relationship should become more serious?" or "What are you looking to get out of the relationship?" Stating your end goal or ideas will allow each person to maintain what they need.

2. Do things together. Defy the distance. As a long distance couple, it's important to do other things together besides the usual phone call. In a long distance relationship, interaction over the phone can become dull in the long run. Incorporating other forms of interaction are important. Just think... People in short-distance relationships do not spend the majority of their time talking, but rather doing things with each other. Try to replicate this by finding things to do together such as watching a TV show or movie simultaneously.

3. Communicate in some way every day, more than once if possible. Since you won't be seeing each other, it's important to establish and maintain an emotional connection. These don't always have to be long, in-depth conversations. Tell each other about your little triumphs and tragedies. Ask for advice. Use an instant messenger program or VoIP for real-time chat, or web cams for that visual connection. E-mail is great so make sure you use it, especially if long-distance phone calls put a strain on your budget. Remember that e-mail and even instant messengers can increase the possibility of misunderstandings. Write love letters. Send small gifts or flowers for no reason. In this case, quantity is as important as quality. You may discover an advantage over others whose partner is close at hand—you don't take communication for granted!

4. Take advantage of the benefits a long distance relationship offers: more time with friends and/or family, no arguments over toothpaste caps, the pleasure of seeing your sweetheart again after a long absence, time to mull your options (rather than snapping at your partner impulsively) before you respond to that email s/he wrote that seemed so rude the first time you read it, etc. Most important, being far apart gives you a chance to maintain your individuality—something that can get lost in the shuffle when couples spend all their free time together.

5. Pursue common interests, even if it means pursuing them apart. If there's a movie you're both interested in seeing, watch it individually and then call each other afterward and talk about it. Read a certain book at the same time. Stargaze while you're on the phone. Set your watches to go off at the same time every day, and synchronize your alarm with that of your partner. Make it a point to think of each other when your watch goes off, and revel in the fact that he or she is thinking about you, too. Find creative ways to bond.

6. Avoid the temptation to be controlling. People have free will and no one can or should control another person. As long as you are both interested in being in the relationship, you will stick with it and distance will not make a difference. As soon as one of you decides the other is not a good match—or someone else is a better match—your relationship ends, whether you live 3000 miles apart, two streets over, or share the same bed with your wedding picture on the wall. You are going to have to trust each other completely if this relationship is going to work.

7. Try challenging each other. This is not the same as being controlling. You may find that you can do things for each other that you couldn't quite find the motivation to do on your own. Perhaps you could motivate yourselves to get some exercise or to cook better or more often. It will give you something to do while you wait to see your partner again, and it will give you both something to strive for and talk about until then.

8. Talk about your future together. Assuming that ultimately you'd want to live together, discussing how you're going to get to that point will help you prove to each other that the relationship is going somewhere and that your efforts and frustrations are not in vain.

9. Remember: Things will get better with time, and even the relationship will become better. Have hope.

10. Visit often. Try to make the time to visit each other as often as possible or as often as your budget permits you to. A relationship cannot thrive if the only thing you have is the phone call. You need to see each other up close and personal every chance you get. The key here is to set up some "rules" about frequency of communication and visits and stick to them. Consistency can help a long-distance relationship survive.

11. Avoid jealousy and be trusting. One of the easiest ways to destroy a perfectly healthy relationship is to poison it with jealousy and drama. When you start a long distance relationship, you must be realistic of the difficulties ahead. It always helps if you go in a relationship with the idea that everyone is innocent and worthy of trust until proven otherwise. Don't fall in the trap of interrogating your partner every time he/she decides to go out for a drink with people you haven't met or he/she didn't get back to you right away when you called and left a message. Just because you are in a long-distance relationship doesn't mean your lives will pause. Your partner will naturally have a social life where he/she lives and so should you. Sure, it helps to have your eyes open and not be totally naive, but being overly suspicious is unhealthy for you and your relationship too. You should both maintain your social activity and be happy with yourselves.

12. Be positive. Staying positive and not focusing on the negative aspects of a long-distance relationship is essential to keeping your relationship blooming and your partner content. Being away from your sweetie is not all bad news. Use the opportunity of personal time to pursue your interests and hobbies as well as your career objectives. Another positive point is that long distance dating pushes both of you to be more creative, to communicate better since you don't have "face-to-face" time and to test (and express) your feelings. As long as you see the long-distance relationship as a temporary state, you will keep your chin up and transmit that feeling of security and happiness to your partner too.

13. Give them a personal object of yours so in a time of need, when they miss you, they are able to hold on to something that once belonged to you. This will provide comfort, happiness, and the thought of being with you.

14. Work towards a balanced relationship between partners. A relationship must be built on strong foundations of trust, understanding and determination to make it work. The two partners should be reasonable about their expectations and willing to cooperate so that the relationship can lead to a happy ending. If these parameters are taken care of, you have nothing to worry about. But don't forget to ask some questions because if you don't, your partner may start to think that you're losing interest.

15. Create your own set of relationship standards that both of you have mutually agreed upon. That creates a common goal for you to work towards, developing a strong relationship whether you are together or apart. For example, agree to disagree, accept each other as you are, practice trust and honesty, strive towards compromise and self-sacrifice, seek spiritual unity, and maintain open communication.

Source: http://www.wikihow.com/Make-a-Long-Distance-Relationship-Work

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Relationships That Last

Ways Of Building Relationships That Last


In building relationships that are good it is usually imperative to understand and respect other people. A relationship where both parties respect and appreciate each other is bond to last a long time. Where there is real friendship, you will notice that each party's interests, desires and opinions are valued.

Without respect and understanding between two people, love cannot exist. I have come to realize that love is all about friendship. You cannot love someone if they are not your friend. Your partner must be the one who makes you happy, with whom you like sharing your experiences and secrets. This way you will end up building relationships that last.

Ideally, lovers are two people who do not really care whether the rest of the world exists. They like having fun together and supporting each other. In true friendship, a lover is one who will understand and support the other in times of need instead of, blaming them or abandoning them. A real lover does not find fault but always understands and forgives. For you to succeed in building relationships that last you need to be tender and considerate to your partner.

In building relationship, each one must understand and like the attributes of the other and also try to live with their weaknesses unconditionally. This is because you may not be able to change the character of your partner. As the saying goes; "You cannot teach an old dog, new tricks". In any case both of you actually do have weaknesses. But with understanding, you can surely enjoy a relationship.

Therefore, when building relationships it is very crucial for both parties to be respectful and understanding. You should support and bear the burden of the other person. To have a firm foundation when building relationships is reciprocating to the love you receive.

Author: Stephen

Article Source: http://www.articlealley.com/article_1598440_35.html

Image Source: GettyImages

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"People change no matter how hard they try not to. As u grow older you mature, and with each new level of maturity comes different ideas, different needs and wants. The person who was perfect for you at 20 could be the person you hate when your 35. Find someone who will grow with you, change with you, laugh with you, and cry with you. A person who fills in where you lack, a person whom you can fill in for when they are lacking. But what about the perfect person? He/ she does not exist. There are no perfect people... only people who are perfect for each other."

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Create a Happier You

How to Create a Happier You


Have you ever known someone who is just seems to be happy all the time? Maybe you find that just by being around that person it makes you feel happier. Ever find yourself wishing you could be more like that person?

Well, you can be. It's just a matter of changing the way you view yourself and the world around you. The following are a few helpful tips.

* Love yourself. Before you expect other people to love and adore you, it is always you who needs to love yourself first. Make a positive commitment to yourself to learning, work, family, friends, nature, and other worthwhile causes. Take time every now and then to look at yourself in the mirror and tell yourself just how wonderful you are. It's important to remind yourself of all that you do in life and what a great person you are. You may not be perfect, but no one is. You are doing the best job you can. So be proud of yourself and let yourself know just how wonderful you are!

* Laugh. Enjoy. Have fun. Looking at the brighter side of life starts with entertainment and pleasure. Laughter is the best medicine! No matter what your troubles may be, a few laughs and giggles can help you throw away the heavy baggage of negative emotions.

* Associate with positive people. In every classroom, work place, or simply anywhere you go where there are groups of people, look for those who are optimistic. There are lots of them out there. Associate with them, hang out, and talk with them. They can help build your self-confidence and self-esteem.

* Be open. We have to accept the fact that we don't know everything. And that we are continuously learning in every place we go, with every person we meet as everyday passes. We should not close our minds to new ideas and information that come our way. Our mind is so spacious that it is impossible to fill it up completely. Thus, we should accept worthy things that may help us become better and brighter people.

* Forgive and forget. Mistakes and failures are the root causes of negative thinking. If we somehow learn to let go of all the pain, agony, and fear we try to keep inside our hearts and minds, then more positive and clear thoughts will be able to be expressed. Forgive yourself and others for making mistakes and forget them.

* Learn from experiences. Learning inside the classroom is different from learning outside it. In school, one learns the lesson first before taking an exam. But in real life, one often takes the test first before learning the lesson. These types of tests in real life are our experiences. If you fail at something or make a mistake, take time to figure out why and learn from it. This will help you to avoid making the same mistake in the future.

* Count your blessings. Focus on what you have rather than what you don't have. Absence of your desires will only bring discontentment and disappointment that will only waste your time. Instead, be thankful and appreciative with all the blessings you do have.

* Kiss your worries goodbye. At the end of every day, before going to sleep, there is no need to keep bad experiences and unhappy moments that happened in the day within you. Let them go-throw them away and kiss them goodbye. As the new day unfolds, new hope and beginnings arise.

By practicing and incorporating the above-mentioned behaviors into your daily life, you can create a much happier you.

Copyright (c) 2010 Catherine Trebble. All Rights Reserved.

Source: http://www.articlealley.com/article_1609902_24.html

"Happiness is something that everyone can achieve. It is something that everyone deserves and it's worth working for when times are rough. A focus on the positive will remind you that the negative is temporary and that no matter what, there is always something in life to remain happy about."

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Lotus Touts


ONE. Give people more than they expect and do it cheerfully.

TWO. Marry a man/woman you love to talk to. As you get older, their conversational skills will be as important as any other.

THREE. Don't believe all you hear, spend all you have or sleep all you want.

FOUR. When you say, 'I love you,' mean it.

FIVE. When you say, 'I'm sorry,' look the person in the eye.

SIX. Be engaged at least six months before you get married.

SEVEN. Believe in love at first sight.

EIGHT. Never laugh at anyone's dreams. People who don't have dreams don't have much.

NINE. Love deeply and passionately. You might get hurt but it's the only way to live life completely.

TEN. In disagreements, fight fairly. No name calling.

ELEVEN. Don't judge people by their relatives.

TWELVE. Talk slowly but think quickly.

THIRTEEN. When someone asks you a question you don't want to answer, smile and ask, 'Why do you want to know?'

FOURTEEN. Remember that great love and great achievements involve great risk.

FIFTEEN. Say 'bless you' when you hear someone sneeze.

SIXTEEN. When you lose, don't lose the lesson.

SEVENTEEN. Remember the three R's: Respect for self; Respect for others; and Responsibility for all your actions.

EIGHTEEN. Don't let a little dispute injure a great friendship.

NINETEEN. When you realize you've made a mistake, take immediate steps to correct it.

TWENTY. Smile when picking up the phone. The caller will hear it in your voice 

TWENTY- ONE. Spend some time alone.

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South Korea



South Korea - Language, Culture, Customs and Etiquette

Facts and Statistics

Location: Eastern Asia, southern half of the Korean Peninsula bordering the East Sea and the Yellow Sea

Capital: Seoul

Climate: temperate, with rainfall heavier in summer than winter

Population: 48,598,175 (July 2004 est.)

Ethnic Make-up: homogeneous (except for about 20,000 Chinese)

Religions: no affiliation 46%, Christian 26%, Buddhist 26%, Confucianist 1%, other 1%

Government: Republic

The Korean Language

The Koreans are one ethnic family speaking one language. They share certain distinct physical characteristics which differentiate them from other Asian people including the Chinese and the Japanese, and have a strong cultural identity as one ethnic family.

The Korean language is spoken by more than 65 million people living on the peninsula and its outlying islands as well as 5.5 million Koreans living in other parts of the world. The fact that all Koreans speak and write the same language has been a crucial factor in their strong national identity. Modern Korea has several different dialects including the standard one used in Seoul and central areas, but they are similar enough that speakers/listeners do not have trouble understanding each other.

Korean Society & Culture

Korean Family Values

The family is the most important part of Korean life.
In Confucian tradition, the father is the head of the family and it is his responsibility to provide food, clothing and shelter, and to approve the marriages of family members.
The eldest son has special duties: first to his parents, then to his brothers from older to younger, then to his sons, then to his wife, and lastly to his daughters.
Family welfare is much more important than the needs of the individual.
Members of the family are tied to each other because the actions of one family member reflect on the rest of the family.
In many cases the family register can trace a family's history, through male ancestors, for over 500 years.

Confucianism

The teachings of Confucius describe the position of the individual in Korean society.
It is a system of behaviours and ethics that stress the obligations of people towards one another based upon their relationship.
The basic tenets are based upon five different relationships: 1) ruler and subject, 2) husband and wife, 3) parents and children, 4)brothers and sisters and 5) friend and friend
Confucianism stresses duty, loyalty, honour, filial piety, respect for age and seniority, and sincerity.

Korean Ancestors

Ancestors are based on the male family line.
Children are raised to believe they can never repay their debt to their parents, hence the popularity of ancestor worship.
They hold ancestral ceremonies for the previous three generations (parents, grandparents, and great grandparents) several times a year, particularly on Chusok and New Year's Day.
On Chuseok, people cook and set out food to celebrate their ancestors.

The Concept of Kibun

Kibun is a word with no literal English translation; the closest terms are pride, face, mood, feelings, or state of mind.
If you hurt someone's kibun you hurt their pride, cause them to lose dignity, and lose face. Korean interpersonal relationships operate on the principle of harmony.
It is important to maintain a peaceful, comfortable atmosphere at all times, even if it means telling a "white lie".
Kibun enters into every facet of Korean life.
It is important to know how to judge the state of someone else's kibun, how to avoid hurting it, and how to keep your own kibun at the same time.
In business, a manager's kibun is damaged if his subordinates do not show proper respect. A subordinate's kibun is damaged if his manager criticizes him in public.
Nunchi is the ability to determine another person's kibun by using the eye.
Since this is a culture where social harmony is crucial, being able to judge another person's state of mind is critical to maintain the person's kibun.
Nunchi is accomplished by watching body language and listening to the tone of voice as well as what is said.

 Etiquette & Customs in South Korea

Meeting Etiquette

Greetings follow strict rules of protocol.
Many South Koreans shake hands with expatriates after the bow, thereby blending both cultural styles.
The person of lower status bows to the person of higher status, yet it is the most senior person who initiates the handshake.
The person who initiates the bow says, "man-na-suh pan-gop-sumnida", which means "pleased to meet you."
Information about the other person will be given to the person they are being introduced to in advance of the actual meeting.
Wait to be introduced at a social gathering.
When you leave a social gathering, say good-bye and bow to each person individually.

Gift Giving Etiquette

Gifts express a great deal about a relationship and are always reciprocated.

It is inconsiderate to give someone an expensive gift if you know that they cannot afford to reciprocate accordingly.

Bring fruit or good quality chocolates or flowers if invited to a Korean's home.

Gifts should be wrapped nicely.

The number 4 is considered unlucky, so gifts should not be given in multiples of 4.

Giving 7 of an item is considered lucky.

Wrap gifts in red or yellow paper, since these are royal colours. Alternatively, use yellow or pink paper since they denote happiness.

Do not wrap gifts in green, white, or black paper.

Do not sign a card in red ink.

Use both hands when offering a gift.

Gifts are not opened when received.

Dining Etiquette

If you are invited to a South Korean's house:
It is common for guests to meet at a common spot and travel together.
You may arrive up to 30 minutes late without giving offence.
Remove your shoes before entering the house.
The hosts greet each guest individually.
The host pours drinks for the guests in their presence. The hostess does not pour drinks.
The hosts usually accompany guests to the gate or to their car because they believe that it is insulting to wish your guests farewell indoors.
Send a thank you note the following day after being invited to dinner.

Table manners

Wait to be told where to sit. There is often a strict protocol to be followed.
The eldest are served first.
The oldest or most senior person is the one who starts the eating process.
Never point your chopsticks.
Do not pierce your food with chopsticks.
Chopsticks should be returned to the table after every few bites and when you drink or stop to speak.
Do not cross your chopsticks when putting them on the chopstick rest.
Do not pick up food with your hands. Fruit should be speared with a toothpick.
Bones and shells should be put on the table or an extra plate.
Try a little bit of everything. It is acceptable to ask what something is.
Refuse the first offer of second helpings.
Finish everything on your plate.
Indicate you are finished eating by placing your chopsticks on the chopstick rest or on the table. Never place them parallel across your rice bowl.

Business Etiquette and Protocol

Relationships & Communication

South Koreans prefer to do business with people with whom they have a personal connection.
It is therefore crucial to be introduced by a third-party.
Relationships are developed through informal social gatherings that often involve a considerable amount of drinking and eating.
Individuals who have established mutual trust and respect will work hard to make each other successful.
South Koreans treat legal documents as memorandums of understanding.
They view contracts as loosely structured consensus statements that broadly define agreement and leave room for flexibility and adjustment as needed. 
Under no circumstances insult or to criticize in front of others.
Sensitive matters may often be raised indirectly through the intermediary that first made the introductions.
South Koreans are extremely direct communicators. They are not averse to asking questions if they do not understand what has been said or need additional clarification.
This is a culture where "less is more" when communicating. Respond to questions directly and concisely.
Since there is a tendency to say "yes" to questions so that you do not lose face, the way you phrase a question is crucial. It is better to ask, "When can we expect shipment?" than "Can we expect shipment in 3 weeks?", since this question requires a direct response.

Business Meeting Etiquette

Appointments are required and should be made 3 to 4 weeks in advance.
You should arrive on time for meetings as this demonstrates respect for the person you are meeting.
The most senior South Korean generally enters the room first.
It is a good idea to send both an agenda and back-up material including information about your company and client testimonials prior to the meeting.
The main purpose of the first meeting is to get to know each other.
Meetings are used to understand a client's needs and challenges. They lay the foundation for building the relationship.
Do not remove your jacket unless the most senior South Korean does so.
Have all written materials available in both English and Korean.

Dress Etiquette

Business attire is conservative.
Men should wear dark- coloured, conservative business suits with white shirts.
Women should dress conservatively and wear subdued colours.
Men should avoid wearing jewellery other than a watch or a wedding ring.

Business Cards

Business cards are exchanged after the initial introductions in a highly ritualized manner.
The way you treat someone's business card is indicative of the way you will treat the person.
Have one side of your business card translated into Korean.
Using both hands, present your business card with the Korean side facing up so that it is readable by the recipient.
Examine any business card you receive carefully. 
Put the business cards in a business card case or a portfolio.
Never write on someone's business card in their presence.

Source: http://www.kwintessential.co.uk/resources/global-etiquette/south-korea-country-profile.html

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About Korea


Geography

Korea is a small peninsula on the far East side of Asia. It is between China and Japan. It is connected to mainland Asia in the North. It is separated from China and Russia by the Yalu River and the Tuman River. Between Korea and Japan is the East Sea. To the West between Korea and China is the Yellow Sea. The size of Korea is roughly 1,000 kilometers in length.

Korea is a divided country. At the End of World War II in 1948, Korea was divided at the 38th parallel. This resulted in North Korea and South Korea. North Korea became communist, while South Korea did not. (This was based on the deal at the end of the War, dividing the country in two just as Germany had been). North Korea is also known as the Democratic People's Republic of Korea, and South Korea is also known as the Republic of Korea. South Korea, or the Republic of North Korea is slightly larger in physical size, while South Korea's population size is about twice as large as North Korea's population size. The fact that this division occurred has left both North and South Korea on the bridge of war.

Language

The Korean language is shared between both North and South Korea and is part of the Altaic language family. There are various dialects but the language is generally understood everywhere. 65 million people speak the Language, with 45 million speaking it in South Korea. The language is considered one of the best and most well planned languages in history. Hangul is the Korean name of the language. The alphabet was created by King Sejong in 1446. The alphabet is extremely easy to learn, which gives Korea one of the highest literacy rates in the World.

Many Koreans also study English. It is taught from very early on in school. Many signs will be in both Korean and English. If you visit Korea, do not be worried if you do not know much of the language. You will learn what you need quickly and many Koreans will be able to speak some English.

Major Cities

Seoul is the capital and most important city of South Korea. It is very city-like and could be compared to New York City. There is plenty to do there, especially at night. Shopping stands are open during the night and it isn't a quiet place at night either! There is always something to do anytime of the day.

There are also five other major cities; Pusan, Inchon, Kwangju, Taejon, and Taegu. Seoul is a highly populated city with 11 million people. Within a very small area near Seoul and surrounding cities, there is approximately 20 million people.

Traditional Korean Society

Although South Korea is modernizing extremely fast, it still holds on to many traditional values and the old way of life. Where there are not highly populated cities, there are rural area's which are still relatively poor, and still follow traditional ways of life. In cities, millions of people live in apartments, but in the rural area's you will find traditional housing. Also, even though the cities are headed toward very modern times, people still hold onto some traditional values. One thing that guarantee's this is the language. The language has traditional values of social status and respect built directly into it. Words change depending on who you are speaking with. This will keep traditional values always present.

Religion

Buddhism

Buddhism is one of the older religions in South Korea. It comes from the Mahayana branch of Buddhism, similar to China and Japan. It's influence in society has declined recently, but there are still many Korean's that practice Buddhism. The pictures above are of various temples that followers will visit.

Christianity

Christianity has become more and more popular in recent years in South Korea. Christianity was introduced to Korea by the Jesuits in China. Catholics spread very quickly, but were persecuted by the King who perceived it as a threat. Protestants began to enter Korea in the late 19th century. Some of the world's largest churches will be found in Korea.

Holidays

Korean New Years

There are actually two Korean New Years. This is because Koreans go by two calendars; one being the same people use in the West, and the other being the lunar calendar.

The Korean New Years based on the Western calendar is similar to our New Years in the United States. It is a big national holiday in Korea as well, and occurs on January 1st just like it does here. During this holiday, many relatives get together to share time together and talk. In Korea, there are some old traditions that some people will still follow. One is to visit the oldest member of the family and bow toward them to show respect and to wish them a long life (this would occur on New Year’s Eve). The following day on January 1st people will pay respect to ancestors by offering food and wine. This ceremony is called Jaesa. At the beginning of the ceremony, the names of the ancestors are pinned to a board. The oldest family members bows and offers the wine to the ancestors who have passed away. Then, the names are burned. Later in the day, relatives talk about old times and eat food. The traditional food usually eaten on New Year’s Day is Duk Gook, a type of soup. Kimchi is always present.

The other New Years Day is the Lunar New Years. It is usually around February. People wear the traditional clothes called Hanbok. It also is a day relatives may get together. People will exchange gifts, and the children will definitely be happy because they are usually given money on Lunar New Years. Sometimes the Lunar New Years and the Solar New Years are pretty common and involve similar traditions. The main idea behind it all is to wish everyone a happy new year, good luck in the new year, same as everywhere else in the world, as well as pay respect to those who have passed away.

Independence Day

The Korean Independence Day represents when Koreans declared themselves independent from Japanese rule. It is on March 1st every year, and began in 1919 when the declared themselves independent from Japanese rule. Japan had taken over Korea in 1910. For the next 9 years, Koreans would live a hard life under Japanese control. Since they declared independence, every year they proudly stand for their independence from all foreign rule, just as we do here in America on July 4th.

Chuseok

Chuseok is the same as our "harvest moon." It takes place on the 15th day of the 8th month going by the lunar calendar. It is a day where the full moon appears larger and may look orange. This holiday is celebrated in many asian countries.

Christmas

Since Christianity took hold in Korea, Christmas has been a growing holiday there as well. It is a little different than here in the west though. Many young people will use Christmas as a day to go out and party and then will spend New Years with their family, which is just the opposite of many Western families.

Children's Day

I just thought I would list this holiday because it is a holiday that should be introduced everywhere! On Children's Day, May 5th of every year, children are given money for free and taken on outings.

Hangul Day 

Hangul Day, also known as Hangul Proclamation Day and Korean Alphabet Day, is on October 9th in South Korea. It is just a day to celebrate the creation of the language! 

Valentine’s Day, White Day, and Black Day

All of these are related!

Valentine’s Day is on February 14th, as it is here. On Valentine’s Day, girls will give chocolates and other gifts to the guys. It is similar to our Valentine’s Day but is more one-sided.

So, what should be done? White Day was created. On White Day, one month later on March 14th, guys will give more expensive chocolates and gifts to the girls. These chocolates come in white boxes. This way it isn't so one-sided!

But what about the people who feel left out on those days because they have nobody to give chocolates to? That is what Black Day is for! On Black Day, another month later on April 14th, people who have nobody all get together with their friends and eat JaJang Noodles, which are black in color. It is not as popular as Valentine’s Day and White Day, but it is still celebrated by some people!

Education

Education is one of the most important things to all Koreans. Everyone wants to be as educated as they can possibly be, and anyone who isn't is not worth very much. For the school system, it consists of 6 years primary school, 3 in middle school and high school, and 4 years at a college. After that, there are post-graduate degrees just like we have here in the US. Because education is of such great importance, parents will try to get their children in the best school possible. This leaves some schools in Korea nearly impossible to get into. With the school system, it is somewhat opposite of our system in the United States. In the United States, it is fairly easy to make it through High School but many people struggle in college. In Korea, students work like crazy in high school trying to get into a college. Colleges are much more difficult to get into (And one other reason for this is they aren't quite as abundant as they are in the US). Once in college, life is a little easier, but students still study more than the majority of students in America. For Koreans, their whole early education is based around getting into a good college. That is what the parents want, and once you do that, parents will be extremely happy.

Education in the English language has become quite common in Korea in recent years. Students begin studying English in elementary school and continue for the rest of their education. Many educated Koreans will know at least some English now, so do not be worried if you visit Korea and only have limited Korean knowledge :) You should be able to find someone who can help you.

People

A few basic facts about Korean people. They are generally known for their darker complexion and high cheek bones. As a race, they can be extremely nice as long as you treat them with respect. However, just keep in mind that some cultural differences are involved so you may consider what they do as rude but they do not mean anything personally by it, it is simply thousands of years of tradition. One example of this may be with the older Koreans. Everywhere older people are respected, but in Korea they are highly respected. Sometimes they may appear to be pushy or rude to you, but it really is nothing personal :) Just a different place. The people truly are nice and helpful. If you need help and understand little Korean, they will help you. They love when you want to learn the language and will help you with that as well.

Some Koreans may still be stubborn and independent (I mean no disrespect!). Some are still very grouped (independent, but grouped.) What I mean is it hasn't been long since Korean's came out of the whole dynasty deal. You may find a lot of generalizations about each 'dynasty', such as the Lee Dynasty, Park, Kim, etc…and most of them are true! There are distinct characteristics that hold true, so older Koreans will ask a lot of questions about family background.

If you travel there, you may get looks and feel awkward sometimes, but this is only natural because most people there are Koreans and Asians, so any other race may stand out. That is nothing personal either :) I promise! You really should go sometime and enjoy it! It will definitely be worth the visit.

One common fact that many people never understand properly deals with birthdays. If you speak to an Asian online, you may get confused when discussing ages and what grade in school and everything. This is because birthdays are a little different. Korean people will generally have an age of 1-2 years older than someone elsewhere who was born in the same year. When a Korean is born, they are automatically considered one year old. Many Koreans then consider themselves one year older on January 1st.

Source: http://www.learnkoreanlanguage.com/Korean-Culture.html

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