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Life Decisions


HOW TO MAKE GOOD DECISIONS
and especially the really important ones...
by Craig Lock

Life is full of decisions; we make hundreds of them every day. Most are automatic and minor ones. However, occasionally we are compelled to make vitally important decisions about major life-goals. These decisions are often practical or ethical ones.

For example, we occasionally have to take major decisions like choosing a marriage partner (assuming they'll take you, that is), choosing to leave a partner in marriage, or decisions about what to do with your life.

HINTS IN DECISION MAKING (not that I'm the expert decision maker- by a long "chalk"). Yes, teacher.

A positive attitude to life helps make major decision making far easier and less stressful. Here are some general hints on decision making (although it's one of my weakest areas); but I'm trying hard to improve...

1. Get rid of your mental blocks.

2. Give up the notion that there is only one 'right solution' to the problem/dilemma you are confronting.

3. Don't fear making a mistake.

4. View your problems as a normal part of life.

5. See yourself not as an indecisive person; but rather someone who sometimes behaves indecisively...that's a rather kind way of putting it.

6. Develop your intuition and logic, but listen to what your heart says (gut feeling).

7. Stop and think before you act. Stop yourself doing the first thing you think of. That's me for sure!

8. Be specific.

9. Know what your goals and your values are, the principles of your existence, before taking a major life decision. Ask yourself if the ideal outcome is in alignment with your values.

10. Write down all the positive and negative factors for and against taking a particular course of action. Benjamin Franklin did it in two columns when confronted with major decisions.

11. Think how the decision will benefit YOU first. Do what you and not what other people really want.

12. Try to think calmly and rationally.

13. Do your homework and get all the facts before you make the decision.

14. Get opinions and feedback from others you trust; but don't let them make the decision for you.

15. Establish priorities and "soul search" (for a "soul mate"). Ask yourself what are the critical factors? What is the single most important consideration?

16. Trust your impulses, your "gut-feelings".

17. Don't take your decision too seriously; nothing is that important, no matter how much it appears like that to you. Ask yourself how much will it really matter in one, five or ten years time? Remember, no decision is irreversible; if you find out some way down the track that you've taken the wrong course. But some decisions are pretty important: finding another lover, or trading in the "old man" (I chose that word very carefully; so I wouldn't be beaten up by the feminists - I am a 55 kg. "hen-pecked" weakling, who has stopped going to the beach, because I always get sand kicked in my face!). After that long soliloquay... Great word that! Nice name for a girl!

18. Look for OPPORTUNITIES in any decision. Each "mistake" is an opportunity to learn. I've launched into a writing "career" from a "mistake" coming to the other side of the world. Crazy wife! A problem became a great opportunity to do something I'd never ever thought of (is it the "winds of fate", "the unseen hand of God", perhaps). If you are making mistakes, you are not learning and growing. So say to yourself, "it doesn't really matter", or "so what"...then "get into this world".

19. Accept total responsibility for your decisions. Responsibility is not BLAME - so don't blame others for putting yourself in this predicament. Sorry 'wif'! This attitude helps to relieve your anger or resentment and gives one peace of mind.

20. Change course if your strategy is not working - the quality of your life is at stake. My mistake is that I persist on a chosen course for far too long at times, like writing! Learn when to correct your direction. "If you don't change direction, you'll end up where you're heading".

Bear in mind that pilots are off course on their flight-path 90 of the time... but they still arrive at their destination.

Usually! When driving you are also continually making little corrections; so there's hope for me yet.

21. Be prepared to take a few risks in life. Look out for opportunities. Every successful business or venture started out with an idea which was a risk. Nothing is infallible. The knowledge that you can handle anything that comes your way is your key to allowing yourself to take risks. Security is a state of mind. It's not having things, it's handling things.

and finally,

22. Look ahead to the future - the past is already gone. See the path ahead as an adventure into the unknown and a time for challenge.

and

23. NB:

Before making major life decisions, meditate or pray (if you are a "religious/spiritual type") about them. Listen to the still voice within, your soul, the "voice of God"... because that is "divine (or highest) wisdom."

Edwin Hubbel Chapin once said: "Every action of our lives touches on some chord that will vibrate in eternity." That is the definition of a legacy.
Cheers to your good decisions in the future...and in so doing you may even leave a legacy by lighting a torch for future generations!
The key is choosing the right pathways for YOU. You are where you are today, as a result of the decisions you made yesterday (and the days before)... and where you will be tomorrow, will arise from your decisions you make today.


Shine that light that is within you.

"The past is history, the future is a mystery, and this moment is the gift, that is why this moment is called the present." 

"Your belief determines your action and your action determines your results, but first you have to believe." - Mark Victor Hansen

"God, the Source of Life", will never give you a desire, a vision, an individual dream without your having the ability/potential for it to come to pass." - Craig Lock

Uplifting, encouraging and empowering people through the power of words and thought energy. Change YOUR world and you change THE world.

Source: http://www.articlealley.com/article_7614_24.html

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Friendship and Leaving

Some thoughts on Friendship and Leaving:





"It's by chance we met, by choice we became friends."

"I love you, not for what you are, but for what I am when I am with you."

"You asked me once what I would remember – this and much more."

"Don't cry because you are leaving, smile because you were there."

"Somehow I know we'll meet again. Not sure quite where and I don't know just when. You're in my heart, so until then it's time for saying goodbye."

"A farewell is necessary before we can meet again, and meeting again after moments or a lifetime is certain for those who are friends."

"Yesterday brought the beginning, tomorrow brings the end, though somewhere in the middle we became the best of friends."

"Friendships that last are those wherein each friend respects the other's dignity to the point of not really wanting anything from them."

"A friend appreciates the good in you, overlooks the worst in you, and brings out the best in you."

"There are no goodbyes for us. Wherever you are, you will always be in my heart."

"If you can count on one hand five good friends, then you are lucky."

"In junior high school, who you are is defined less by who you are than by who is the person next to you."

"It's really amazing when two strangers become the best of friends, but it's really sad when the best of friends become two strangers."

"Remember me with smiles and laughter, for that's how I'll remember you. If you can only remember me in sadness and tears, then don't remember me at all."

"It's not the days in life we remember, rather the moments."

"Moving on is simple. It's what we leave behind that's hard."

"There is an end to all things no matter how much we want to hold on to them."

"This is the time to remember because it will not last forever; these are the days to hold on to because we won't although we'll want to."

"All good things must come to an end, but I wouldn't have wanted it to end any other way or with any other people."

"Never say goodbye because on one sunny day we will meet again."

"We have known each other our whole lives and now we will go our separate ways. Some will remember and some will forget each other, but we will always have a part of each other inside us."

"I can't remember all the times I told myself to hold on to these moments as they pass."

"Sometimes in life there is not enough time to say all the things we need to say, and when it is all over all we can say is goodbye."

"Don't ever tell anyone anything. If you do, you start missing everybody."

"Silences make the real conversations between friends. Not the saying, but the never needing to say is what counts."

"I cannot say goodbye to those whom I have grown to love, for the memories we have made will last a lifetime, and will never know a goodbye."

"I hate when things are over because so much is left undone."

"How lucky I am to have something that makes saying goodbye so hard."

"Tell me you'll never forget me, because if I thought you would, I would never leave."

"And we're back together again, and I'm never gonna lose you as a friend."

"A true friend is someone who thinks you're a good egg, even though they know you're slightly cracked."

"As I saw the morning star come up over the mountains, I realized that life is simply a collection of memories. But memories are like starlight – they live on forever."

"This is not the end. It is not even the beginning of the end. But it is, perhaps, the end of the beginning."

"We've shared our happiness and we've shared our fears. We've shared so many things throughout the years. And when the times were hard we were by each other's side. You were there to make me laugh when I cried."

"Our memories of yesterday will last a lifetime. We'll take the best, forget the rest, and someday will find that these are the best of times."

"Things are never quite as scary when you have a best friend."

"When I look back now, that summer seemed to last forever, and if I had the choice, I'd always want to be there, those were the best days of my life."

"And so I close now, realizing that the ending has not yet been written."

"A friend is someone you can be alone with and have nothing to do and not be able to think of anything to say and be comfortable in silence."

"There's people you've known forever, who like know you in this way that other people can't. Because they've seen you change. They've let you change."

"Remember everything' she said 'when only memory remains."

"We have a strange and wonderful relationship. You're strange and I'm wonderful, or should I be strange and you be wonderful?"

"Don't let distance get in the way. Hold on to your friendship for it will be there forever."

"No one knows the exact moment when a friendship is formed, but it is this silent forgotten moment that causes the pain when we must say goodbye."

"A friend is someone who reaches out for your hand and touches your heart."

"I'd always thought we'd be friends forever. Well, forever just got a lot shorter than I expected."

"We laughed until we had to cry, we loved right down to our last goodbye, we were the best."

"Odd how much it hurts when a friend moves away and leaves behind only silence."

"So, old friends, now it's time to start growing up, taking charge, seeing things as they are, facing facts, not escaping them, still with dreams, just reshaping them, growing up."

"How do you keep the past behind when it keeps finding ways to get to your heart? It reaches way down deep and tears you inside out till you're torn apart."

"To the world you may be one person but to one person you may be the world."

"Even if we never talk again after tonight, please know that I am forever changed because of who you are and what you mean to me."

"And all at once, you look across a crowded room, you see an old pal of yours, but suddenly you feel like you're seeing him for the first time, and that's when you realize that you will never be the same again."

"The hardest part of loving someone is saying goodbye."

"If you cry when we part we'll never see each other again, but if we do not cry we'll remember forever the days of sunlight and laughter, and be brought together in our memories."

"We started here together and now we're leaving the same way. The funny thing is you never appreciate what you had yesterday until it is gone today."

"It's okay to need each other. That's what makes us strong. That's what makes us human."

"I feel like I don't need to say goodbye, I just have this feeling like I'll see you again soon."

"Every new beginning comes from some other beginning's end."

"A friend is a person with whom I may be sincere. Before him, I may think aloud."

"Never shall I forget the days I spent with you. Continue to be my friend, as you will always find me yours."

"A friend is one who knows you and loves you just the same."

"A real friend steps in when the rest of the world steps out."

"You have been my friends. That in itself is a tremendous thing."

"I always knew that when I looked back on the times I cried I would smile. But I never knew that when I looked back on the times I smiled I would cry."

"My friends have made the story of my life. In a thousand ways they have turned my limitations into beautiful privileges and enabled me to walk serene and happy in the shadow cast by my desperation."

"One day at a time, this is enough. Don't look back and grieve over the past for it is gone. Do not be troubled about the future, for it has yet to come. Live in the present and make it so beautiful that it will be worth remembering."

"Close friends are truly life's treasures. Sometimes they know us better than we know ourselves. With gentle honesty, they are there to guide and support us, to share our laughter and our tears. Their presence reminds us that we are never really alone."

"Never let a memory become stronger than a dream."

"Once you are my friend, I am responsible for you."

"I've learned that goodbyes will always hurt, pictures will never replace being there, thanks is a feeble word, memories forget the hard times, words can never replace feelings, and heroes often go unsung."

"You know a friend is found when you are happy to see them. You know love is found when it hurts to leave them."

"And Pooh gave Christopher Robin the biggest Pooh hug he could because he knew that goodbyes were not Far Away."

"They all said "Hallo" and felt awkward and unhappy suddenly, because it was sort of a goodbye they were saying, and they didn't want to think about it. So they stood around and waited for someone else to speak, and they nudged each other, and said "Go on"..."

"Be sure to put the knocker fairly low on your door in case a very small friend drops by."

"Certain things they should stay the way they are. You should be able to stick them in one of those big glass cases and just leave them alone. I know that's impossible, but it's too bad anyway."

"It's funny. No matter how hard you try, you can't close your heart forever. And the minute you open it up, you never know what's going to come in. But when it does, you've just got to go for it, cause if you don't, there's no point in being here."

"I know we'll be friends for life, sharing our dreams together. As we walk down the road, we'll never think twice, these memories are made forever. And though we're off to different worlds, somehow we're together...because deep within our heart...these memories are made forever."

"Memories may be beautiful and yet what's too painful to remember we simply choose to forget. So it's the laughter we'll remember when we remember the way we were."

"I don't remember who met who first. I just remember all of us being friends."

"It was the end of something simple and the beginning of everything else."

"I've learned that you should always leave loved ones with loving words. It may be the last time you see them. I've learned that heroes are people who do what has to be done when it needs to be done, regardless of the consequences. I've learned that true friendship continues to grow even over the longest distance. Same goes for true love."

"Where you used to be, there is a hole in the world, which I find myself constantly walking around in the daytime, and falling in at night. I miss you like hell."

"A friend is someone you want to be around when you feel like being alone."

"The friend who can be silent with us in a moment of despair or confusion, who can stay with us in an hour of grief and bereavement, who can tolerate not knowing, not curing, not healing, and face us with the reality of our powerlessness. That is a friend who cares."

"It's one of the blessings of old friends that you can afford to be stupid with them."

"It doesn't matter if you have five friends or five-thousand friends. When it all comes down to it, popularity means nothing. All that matters is that you know those five will be there holding your hand, as the five-thousand walk by."

"Some people come into our lives and quickly go. Some stay for a while and leave footprints in your heart and we are never the same."

"Everyone hears what you say; friends listen to what you say; best friends listen to what you don't say."

"Some acquaintances sweep into and out of your life like a storm. The true friends are those who, like the sunshine, wait behind the clouds for a chance to shine through."

"All I want in this life is to matter to somebody like you matter to me and to change somebody's life like you have changed mine. I want to be the kind of person that somebody can count on, the kind that somebody always knows will know just what to say. I want to be as special to somebody - someday - as you have been to me each and every day."

Source: http://www.mtholyoke.edu/~rghosh/index/quotes/friendship.html

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Career Change

Career Change-Taking Stock of Your Life



When it comes to making important decisions in your life-especially one as important as making a career change-it's important to know yourself inside and out. The best way to do that is to stop and take stock of your life.

* What do you have going for yourself?

* What do you have working against you?

* Where are you at in your life right now in comparison to where you want to be?

When taking stock of your life, it's important to not only look at the present, but also the past. Who you were ten years ago may not be who you are today. A lot may have changed when you compare your present with your past. But there are things from your past that may overlap with your present life. Such things include your strengths, personality, experience and education.

It's also important to take an honest look at any personal flaws or weaknesses you have that could be holding you back in life. Doing so will help you gain a better perspective when it comes to where to go from here in your job and/or career.

Here are a few ideas when it comes to things to look at when it comes to your life and career.

* Strengths: Positive aspects that are under your control that you may be able to capitalize on when it comes to planning for a new career.

* Weaknesses: Negative aspects that are under your control that you may need to improve upon when it comes to planning for a new career.

* Opportunities: Positive external conditions that you do not control but can take advantage of when it comes to planning for a new career.

* Threats: Negative external conditions that you do not control but might be able to decrease or eliminate when it comes to planning for a new career.

Explore your own self-perception of your strengths, but also put yourself inside a prospective employer's head as you consider your strong points. Avoid false modesty, but also be brutally honest and realistic with yourself.

In assessing your weaknesses, think about what prospective employers might consider to be the areas you could improve upon. Facing your frailties now can give you a huge head start in career planning.

As human beings, we find it relatively difficult to identify the areas where we are weak. But this assessment helps to identify areas where we may need to improve. If you identify a skill that you know is in your chosen field, but you are weak in that skill area, you need to take steps to improve that skill. Past performance appraisals and even your grades and teacher comments from school provide valuable feedback.

By taking stock of your life, you can gain a clearer perspective of where to go from here. You can take this information and use it as a road map that can help you take advantage of opportunities and avoid or lessen certain challenges you may face as you start the journey down your new career path.

Copyright (c) 2010 Catherine Trebble. All Rights Reserved.

Changing careers can be just the boost you're looking for. It can also be a scary proposition, especially when you are a woman. The pressures and obligations we are under can make this a difficult challenge. Don't let these obstacles stop you from finding the job you love.

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The place where you want to be


“If you are looking for love,” wrote the Roman poet Ovid (43 BC-17 AD), “you should spend your time in the stadium and the theatre, since it is in public places where you are most likely to find a companion to your taste. Bees know that, for making honey, they need to keep close to the flowers.”

Two thousand years have gone by since Ovid composed The Art of Love. The world looks different now, but human beings have remained essentially the same. Ovid's compilation of amorous advice has passed from generation to generation, proving its effectiveness through the ages.

The details to reach the place where you want to be have changed, but not the principles. Today, as in Ancient Rome, personal initiative generates opportunities. The following five points summarize the teachings of The Art of Love. These are the sort of recommendations that each of us can apply. These five steps may improve our relationships in any environment or situation.

[1] Make up your mind about what kind of social life you want to have: Your determination will greatly contribute to your success. In this sense, meeting new people, making friends, or dating are like any other venture. If you have gone through divorce, have you decided that you are going to start looking for a new partner? Make a firm resolution and give it the priority that it deserves.

[2] Ignore negative comments and unfair criticism about your ambitions: You can always find reasons not to do something. If you let people, they will name you more obstacles than you can ever imagine. Life is already difficult enough without paying attention to discouraging remarks, so don't.

Avoid in particular comparing yourself to someone whom you might consider luckier. The world is made of all sorts of persons. If you are looking for love, all you have to do is find one good match for yourself. Shrug your shoulders at comparisons and look for the type of person that suits you best.

Your time on earth is limited. You only have one life to live. Move forward with it and don't get stuck in pointless arguments. Let people have their own opinion, but choose what you consider optimal for yourself. Opt for what is rational, even if that alternative lacks popular support.

[3] Decide how you want to play: When it comes to developing an active social life, our century offers infinite possibilities for meeting people. If you live in a mid-sized town, there are clubs you can join and entertainment locales you can visit. The internet is, of course, the largest venue of all.

Ignore fashion and follow your own values. For your search of companions, select times and places that match your interests and disposition. Your background and constraints are unique. Your present course of action should be in line with your vision of the future. Never rely on chance to solve your problems. Take action from which success can be expected.

[4] Run the race you have chosen: Do not let discouragement hold you back from taking action. Make entrepreneurship a habit in business and personal relationships. Stay alert and seize opportunities as they come along. Change the way you think. View life as a market that offers infinite possibilities.

No matter how you decide to play, you will increase your chances of success if you do it regularly. You might have to invest many hours to develop a satisfactory social life. Meeting people, making friends, and dating are similar to looking for a job. First, you have to detect the opportunity. Then, you have to seize it.

[5] Find a bird that can fly: Entrepreneurs who wish to purchase an existing business often explore dozens of possibilities before they finally make a deal. They are not looking to buy just any company. Their interest is attracted only by businesses with high growth potential which also match their personal taste. They want to catch a bird that can fly.

In the field of personal relationships, you should be willing to discard what doesn't work. Don't hang around someone who is not a good match for you. You are looking for an individual who will make you happier than you already are.

If you are serious about finding a love companion, single-mindedness will move you closer to the place where you want to be. You can never predict the moment when the opportunity for a great relationship will come across your way. Search persistently and keep your eyes open.

In business, love, or friendship, discard speculative advice and choose the wisdom of rational action. Your personal initiative is the decisive factor to enhance your well-being and improve your prospects for the future.

Let others debate if the world should be this or that way. Focus on specific actions that you can carry out to ameliorate your own situation. Make a pause from time to time, assess your progress, and correct your mistakes. Move on and redouble your attempts to reach the place where you want to be. Personal initiative is the key to achieve more in life. Let your actions speak for themselves.

Source:
http://johnvespasian.blogspot.com/search/label/Relationships%20and%20Dating

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How's the "Blind Date"?

As promised with my previous blog posted last week about my scheduled "Blind Date" last Saturday, July 17. The latest about it is that it was cancelled! Ha!

I felt lazy because it rained so I called my cousin to ask if it is possible to reschedule the "blind date". She told me that it is ok to reschedule because the guy that I'm supposed to meet went to a place for vacation and sightseeing and he might be back late. So, date cancelled!

My cousin keeps on telling me about their plans for the next Saturday. They are planning to go hiking. She's asking me if I can join them because Alex (the guy that they will introduce to me) keeps on telling my cousin to convince me to go with them hiking. But I'm not sure yet. It's raining and we will do that thing? Funny and I feel lazy ha-ha!

I don't even know if I'm still interested to meet him! LOL!

Anyway, I will try to meet him one of these days.

Note: The guy that I'm supposed to meet is a Korean and according to my cousin, he’s been living in the Philippines for one year.

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What Is Life All About?

I've only one life; it soon will be gone.
What will remain of the things that I've done?
Will I be remembered as someone who cared?
Someone who sympathized? Someone who shared?

Will the things that I did while on earth be worthwhile?
Have I lightened a load? Gone the second mile?
Did I put off my ambitions? Put them on hold?
To help someone else in reaching their goal?

If I can say YES to these things, and more,
Then I'll not be ashamed when I reach Heaven's shore.
I will hold my head high, when I'm called by my Lord
To stand before God to receive my reward.

Have you ever gotten up in the morning and asked yourself the question: "What in the world is life all about? What is worthwhile? I get up and go through the same routine day after day. What for?"

James 4:14 "Wherefore ye know not what shall be on the morrow. For what is your life? It is even a vapour, which appeareth for a little time, and then vanisheth away."

Let's examine these questions: What IS life all about? What is worthwhile? What is junk? We have only one life to live. We want to make the most of it. But how can we accomplish this, with the energy and resources we have? What in life can we afford to let go of? The answer, if we think about it, is plain: Let go of anything we can't carry with us into eternal life.

What about pretense? Are we 'pretenders'? Do we pretend to be something, someone we are not? Do outsiders see a different 'us' than our family sees? "Let your light so shine before men, that they may see your good works, and glorify your Father which is in heaven." Matthew 5:16 Eternity is not for pretenders.

What about worry? "Do we worry about things that MAY happen?" Leave the future to God. We don't know what the future holds, but we know Who holds the future.

Are we discontented? We must make the best of what we have, without complaining. Are we always wanting something better? If we look around, we can always find someone worse off than ourselves.

Are we self-seeking? Are we like a two-year-old, always looking out for Number One? "In eternal life there is no greed. One hears of neither 'mine' nor 'thine'. All things are for all."

Now here are some things we can hang on to, or adopt:

Make use of our time. If we waste a minute here and a minute there, before we know it, we have wasted perhaps an hour. A whole hour out of our day! The question in life is not "How much time do I have?" It is "What shall I do with the time I have?"

Value work. We must ask ourselves: "Is this work vital for strengthening my own character, or inspiring others, or helping the world?" Of course, one must work to earn a living, but it is HOW we do even menial tasks that counts. We must value the work God has given us to do, and do it to please Him and to be a testimony to those with whom we work.

Seek happiness every day. If we are not happy today, we will never be happy! Or as an old teacher of mine used to say: "If you are not happy anywhere, you will not be happy anywhere." It took me a few years to figure that one out. But she was right. Be happy today, regardless of circumstances. This doesn't mean that we have to go around laughing all the time. What it means is, be happy within ourselves so that our happiness will shine through us to others, radiating Christ.

Cherish love. "True love never nags. It trusts. Love does not have to be tethered, neither in time or eternity." Jealous love, exclusive love, selfish love: these kinds of love are not true love. "Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up; does not behave rudely, nos not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil...." I Corinthians 13:4 & 5 (NKJV)

Have Faith. This is all-important. "Strong, serene, unquenchable faith in the loving kindness of God will enable us to look fearlessly towards the end of the temporal existence and the beginning of the eternal, and will make it possible for us to live our lives effectively, grandly."

Summing it all up: Let go of everything you cannot carry into eternal life.

Source:
ttp://www.skywriting.net/inspirational/messages/what_is_life_all_about.html

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Alphabet Faith Guide

Although things are not perfect
Because of trial or pain
Continue in thanksgiving
Do not begin to blame
Even when the times are hard
Fierce winds are bound to blow
God is forever able
Hold on to what you know
Imagine life without His love
Joy would cease to be
Keep thanking Him for all the things
Love imparts to thee
Move out of "Camp Complaining"
No weapon that is known
On earth can yield the power
Praise can do alone
Quit looking at the future
Redeem the time at hand
Start every day with worship
To "thank" is a command
Until we see Him coming
Victorious in the sky
We'll run the race with gratitude
Xalting God most high
Yes, there'll be good times and there will be bad, but...
Zion waits in glory... where none are ever sad!

Source: http://www.skywriting.net/inspirational/messages/alphabet_faith_guide.html

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The Mayonnaise Jar



When things in your life seem, almost too much to handle,
When 24 Hours in a day is not enough,
Remember the mayonnaise jar and 2 cups of coffee.

A professor stood before his philosophy class and had some items in front of him.
When the class began, wordlessly,
He picked up a very large and empty mayonnaise jar
And proceeded to fill it with golf balls.

He then asked the students, if the jar was full.

They agreed that it was.

The professor then picked up a box of pebbles and poured them into the jar.
He shook the jar lightly.
The pebbles rolled into the open areas between the golf balls.

He then asked the students again if the jar was full.

They agreed it was.

The professor next picked up a box of sand and poured it into the jar.
Of course, the sand filled up everything else.

He asked once more if the jar was full.
The students responded with a unanimous 'yes.'

The professor then produced two cups of coffee from under the table and poured the entire contents into the jar, effectively filling the empty space between the sand.

The students laughed..

'Now,' said the professor, as the laughter subsided,

'I want you to recognize that this jar represents your life..

The golf balls are the important things - family, children, health, Friends, and Favorite passions -

Things that if everything else was lost and only they remained, Your life would still be full.

The pebbles are the other things that matter like your job, house, and car.

The sand is everything else --The small stuff.

'If you put the sand into the jar first,’ He continued,
there is no room for the pebbles or the golf balls.

The same goes for life.

If you spend all your time and energy on the small stuff,

You will never have room for the things that are important to you.

So...

Pay attention to the things that are critical to your happiness.

Play With your children.

Take time to get medical checkups.

Take your partner out to dinner.

There will always be time to clean the house and fix the disposal.

'Take care of the golf balls first --
The things that really matter.
Set your priorities. The rest is just sand.'

One of the students raised her hand and inquired what the coffee represented...

The professor smiled.

'I'm glad you asked'.

"It just goes to show you that no matter how full your life may seem, there's always room for a couple of cups of coffee with a friend."

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Itagalog mo

Ano sa TAGALOG ang:


01) Contemplate – kulang ang mga pinggan

02) Punctuation – pera para maka-enrol

03) Ice Buko – nagtatanong kung ayos na ang buhok

04) Tenacious – sapatos na pang tennis

05) Calculator – tawagan kita mamaya

06) Devastation – sakayan ng bus

07) Pr otestant – Tindahan ng prutas

08) Statue – Ikaw ba yan?09) Tissue – Ikaw nga!

10) Predicate – Pakawalan mo ang pusa

11) Dedicate – Pinatay ang pusa

12) Aspect – Pantusok o pandurog ng yelo

13) Deduct – Ang pato

14) Defeat – Ang paa (ng pato?)

15) Detail – Ang buntot (ng pato?)

16) Deposit ? Ang Gripo(Call DIPLOMA if DEPOSIT is leaking)

17) City – Bago mag-utso; A number to follow 6

18) Cattle – Doon nakatila ang Hali at Leyna

19) Persuading – Unang Kasal

20) Depress – Ang nagkasal sa PERSUADING

22) Defense – Ginamit ng mga pangsulat sa kontratasa PERSUADING

23) It Depends – Kainin mo ang bakod

24) Shampoo – Bago mag-labing-isha (11)

25) Delusion – Maluwang (kapag maluwang ang damit,eh DELUSION)

26) Delivery – Walang bayad. Kapag working lunch,eh DELIVERY na ang tanghalian

27) Profit – Patunayan mo

28) Balance Sheet – What comes out after eating abalance diet

29) Backlog – b acon saka egg

30) Beehive – magpakatino ka

31) CD-ROM – tingnan mo ang kwarto

32) Debug – ang ipis33) Defrag – ang palaka

34) Defense – ang bakod35) Defer – ang balahibo

36) Deflate – ang plato

37) Detest – ang eksamin

38] Devalue – ‘yon ang susunod sa letrang V

39) Devote – ang boto40) Dilemma – brownout!, a!

41) Effort – ‘dun nagla-land ang efflane

42) Forums – apat na kwarto

43) July – nagsinungaling ka ba?

44) Liturgy – what comes after litur F

45) Thesis – ito ay…


This is from the blog of KBrosas.

Source: http://kbrosas.wordpress.com

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How to tell He/She's more than just a Friend?


There is little in life that is more frustrating that having deep feelings for someone who you're "just friends" with. And there is little that is more frightening than to consider revealing those feelings to your friend because you run the risk of jeopardizing the friendships. For that reason, it is important to think carefully before telling your friend that you're in love. It is also important to prepare emotionally once you've made the decision that you're going to communicate your feelings to your friend. And finally, you'll need to find the right way to tell your friend to ease the awkwardness of the situation.

First things first, make sure that you really want to tell your friend about your feelings. Are you certain that you're in love? Do you want to tell your friend because you are hoping that your revelation will lead to a relationship? Or is this a situation in which you just need to get the feelings off of your chest even though you don't think it's likely that your relationship is ever going to be anything more than platonic? Take some time to really get a good grasp on why you are interested in sharing this with your friend at the current time. Work through your thoughts in a journal or talk to a counselor to explore the reasons motivating you to share these feelings and make a thought-through decision about whether to proceed or to leave things as they are.

If you've decided that you are indeed going to tell your friend that you're in love, you should prepare emotionally for the ramifications of that. You should consider what might happen to your life if your friend decides that he/she doesn't share your feelings and doesn't want to be as close to you for awhile after the revelation. Think carefully about what you will do to protect yourself in this situation. This includes creating a support network of other friends and loved ones who can spend time with you if this happens. Of course, you're hoping that this isn't the end result of your revelation, but you should prepare for it anyway, just in case. You don't want to be left with no best friend after the conversation has taken place.

You should also think about what you want from your friend. Being able to clearly articulate that is going to make the conversation go more smoothly. Just revealing your feelings for your friend to deal with can be shocking and overwhelming to the friend. But if you have a plan in mind and know what you want, you give your friend the chance to make a decision without being so overwhelmed. Know what you want in case the friend shares the feelings and what you want in case he/she doesn't. For example, you may want to proceed to a romantic relationship if those feelings are shared but to discontinue the friendship entirely if they are not. Alternatively, you may want to spend more time developing your relationship if the feelings are shared but would be content to stay friends as is if not. Know what you want so you can tell your friend when the conversation takes place.

Finally, you'll need to tell your friend, of course. You should pick an appropriate time and setting for doing so. Don't just burst out with your emotions one day as your having a quick lunch before returning to the office. Make sure that you have the time and privacy for a complete conversation about the topic. If you feel like it's better done in a public place, go for coffee or dinner. Otherwise do it in the comfort of one of your homes. Be clear and honest in your announcement about your emotions. Let the other person know what you are feeling and what you want to happen from here on out. Then wait and see what he/she has to say. You might be surprised to find that these feelings were shared all along and your friend just didn't know how to tell you!

Ghee: This is an article from hubpages. I forgot the exact link. For more information you may check on hubpages.com

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Why will I date again?


Last night my cousin mentioned to my mom the thing about my blind date which happens to be a double date with my cousin and her friend accompanying us this Saturday. I was a bit disappointed with her reaction. She asked me "Why are you going on a blind date? You will look desperate." I didn't said anything after she said that.. I just cuddled our cute cat and walked away.

Later, I found myself disappointed while thinking about what my mom said. I wanted to tell her that I'm going on a date not because I'm desperate! I asked for my cousin's help because I realized that I've been single and not dating for almost 3 years. I think I can't just wait forever. Gone are the days when the girl will patiently wait for his Prince to come.

Yes I enjoyed being Single for 2 or 3 years...but there are times that I can't help but feel lonely. I wanted to have someone whom I can turn to when people close to me gets too judgemental. I envy people who were so lucky to find their lifetime partner.

I'm turning 23 this year and yet I don't have anyone whom I like or date or whatever. I just work and stay at home....that's all. In short, my life is simple, plain, or should I say, boring.

So, deciding to go on a date doesn't make me look "desperate". It means I want to meet new people. I want to add some fun in my life. Fun in a way that I won't spend weekends at home in front of the TV or computer doing the same old stuff I used to do.

I used to remind myself not to hurry when it comes to LOVE. It will come to me in God's time. Yes, I still believe that it's true...in God's time it will come. But lately I realized I want to go out and meet different people with different personalities so I may know what do I really look for in a guy. Dating can lead to me having new found friends or it could lead me to meeting that "someone" that I've been waiting for.

My purpose is not just about finding a BF. It's more than that. And I know that no matter how hard I try to explain myself to others, they won't understand because they don't know how it's like to be in my situation.

I've been so transparent when it comes to my life to people close to me. Sometimes I think it's good...but I realized that most of the times...it's not. So, I decided to keep some privacy. I'll keep private things private. Besides, revealing everything about yourself to other people can be so boring! Even among married couples, every day they discover little things about each other as they live in the same roof.

To end this, I'm going to start dating again because I'm ready for it. Period.

(Ready for what? You can think anything about it...but the real reason behind it...that is something I will just keep to myself. Now talking about Privacy! Ha!)

“Dating is, essentially, getting to know someone over an extended period of time to determine if a relationship is something worth pursuing.”

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Secret coz it's Blind Date



"It's been a long time since I did it...maybe it's time for me to try again....dating."

I thought about this while chatting with my cousin last night. We've talked on how she can help me in finding someone that I can date. She's really interested to help so I asked her about it. She told me she's going to introduced me to her friend's friend this Saturday. I keep on asking things about the guy but she just keep on telling "secret coz it's a blind date". So, I will start dating again this Saturday. I don't want to expect anything. I just hope that my date and I will enjoy each other's company.

We’ll see what will happen. I'll write about it on my next blog post next week.

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Realizations...



As I grow old, my realizations about life become deeper, problems get bigger, situations become more complicated and I know that you are just like me.

Sometimes we wish we could go back.

Back to the time when the only man in our life was our Dad, our only best friend was our Mom and any pain could be healed by just a band-aid and a lollipop.

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Basic Filipino Phrases

Good morning.
Magandang umaga po. (formal/polite)
Magandang umaga. (informal)

Good noon.
Magandang tanghali po. (formal/polite)
Magandang tanghali. (informal)

Good afternoon.
Magandang hapon po. (formal/polite)
Magandang hapon. (informal)

Good evening
Magandang gabi po. (formal/polite)
Magandang gabi. (informal)

How are you?
Kumusta po kayo? (formal/polite)
Kumusta ka? (informal)

I'm fine.
Mabuti po naman. (formal/polite)
Mabuti naman. (informal)

Please, come in.
Tuloy po kayo. (formal/polite)
Tuloy. (informal)

Thank you.
Salamat po. (formal/polite)
Salamat. (informal)

Thank you very much.
Maraming salamat po. (formal/polite)
Maraming salamat. (informal)

You are welcome.(respond to "thank you")
Wala pong anuman. (formal/polite)
Walang anuman. (informal)

Yes.
Opo (formal/polite)
Oo (informal)

No.
Hindi po (formal/polite)
Hindi. (informal)

I don't know.
Hindi ko po/ho alam. (formal/polite)
Hindi ko alam. (informal)

What time is it?
Anong oras na po? (formal/polite)
Anong oras na? (informal)

Where are you going?
Saan po kayo papunta? (formal/polite)
Saan ka papunta? (informal)

Where did you come from?
Saan po kayo galing? (formal/polite)
Saan ka galing? (informal)

What is your name?
Ano po ang pangalan nila? (formal/polite)
Anong pangalan mo? (informal)

I am ______ (name).
Ako po si ________ (formal/polite)
Ako si _________ (informal)

How old are you?
Ilang taon na po kayo? (formal/polite)
Ilang taon ka na? (informal)

I am _______ years old.
Ako po ay _______ gulang na. (formal/polite)
Ako ay _______ gulang na. (informal)

Where do you live?
Saan po kayo nakatira? (formal/polite)
Saan ka nakatira? (informal)

Where are you from?
Taga saan po sila? (formal/polite)
Taga saan ka? (informal)

Have you eaten yet?
Kumain na po ba sila? (formal/polite)
Kumain ka na ba? (informal)

What?
Ano po? (formal/polite)
Ano? (informal)

Why?
Bakit po? (formal/polite)
Bakit? (informal)

Who?
Sino po? (formal/polite)
Sino? (informal)

When?
Kailan po? (formal/polite)
Kailan? (informal)

Where?
Saan po? (formal/polite)
Saan? (informal)

Which?
Alin po? (formal/polite)
Alin? (informal)

How?
Paano po? (formal/polite)
Paano? (informal)

How much?
Magkano po? (formal/polite)
Magkano? (informal)

For more Filipino/Tagalog Phrases, check on the following links:
The first link is the best (^_^)

http://tagalogphrases.com/Home.aspx
(General, Traveling, Shopping, Romance, Misc, Phases)

http://www.101languages.net/tagalog/basics.html

http://www.hillmanwonders.com/philippines/phrases_philippines.htm

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Dos and Don'ts in Philippines


Dos and Don'ts When You Travel or Live in the Philippines

 Filipinos are high spirited, fun-loving people. They are one of the friendliest races in the world with great sense of hospitality. They will try their best to please you and even treat you like a royalty, especially if you deserve it. Most Filipinos will wish you return the favour but only few will outrightly expect it from you.


The information below are mere guidelines and not an expert’s advice which you need to know and remember before planning your trip to the Philippines or while you are enjoying yourself in its tropical islands as a traveller, a retiree, a student, an employee or a resident.

1. Smile, Wave Your Hand or Say “Hello”

Most Filipinos believe in “First impressions last”. A simple smile is enough to make them like you. Don’t grin or smile like you’re hitting on the person. That person may think you’re odd or pervert.

A gentle wave of hand or friendly “Hello” and “Hi” are considered as greetings in the Philippines. Some locals will greet you instantly but others will wait for you to do the first move.

2. Always say “Thank You” or “Salamat po”

Filipinos find it impressive and respectful if someone particularly a foreigner says “Thank You” or “Salamat po” for anything even if it is not necessary.

3. Don’t Forget to Say “Sorry” and “Excuse Me”

Always say “Sorry” whether you accidentally hit a person or utter words that are considered vulgar and incriminating or act inappropriately that may cause aggravation and in most cases, even if the fault is not yours. This simple word will spare your life.

There are Filipinos who stop in the middle of the pavement or aisle particularly in shopping centres, to talk to their friends, call someone or even day-dream at the items hanging on the display windows. Say “Excuse Me” or simply clear your throat with “Ahem” to get their attention. Some will look at you shyly while others will giggle at their embarrassing behaviour.

4. Be Thoughtful

A Filipino woman whether a friend or a partner greatly appreciates if you remember her birthday, anniversary and a very important promise. Anything from flowers, chocolates, stuff toys or jewelry or anything will do the trick, as long as you remember these important things – a priceless reward is at hand.

If, however, you are meeting a Filipino male friend or an in-law the first time, it is suggested that a bottle of wine or whiskey, a pack of cigar/cigarette or a bottle of perfume from your country will make any grumpy man happy. It is like a priceless trophy. And your “pasalubong” or present will be your pass to gain more trust and friendship among his friends and the people he knows.

5. Be the Most Patient Person in the World

Most Filipinos like to spend a lot of time on something that can be done in seconds. Filipino women may take awhile to answer a simple “yes or no” question. It is not because they want you to wait longer, but because their brain cells are weighing the pros and cons of their final answer especially if it is about their relationships.

This “delaying tactics” behaviour exists prevalently in the country, whether you are transacting business, filing documents, extending your visa or meeting friends.

Most companies particularly those who have experience with foreigner clients may show competence and exception to this rule but those who are new may find it difficult to adjust in dealing with punctuality.

Do not expect to receive a response in two or three days if you send an email. It may take at least few weeks for the correspondence, unless you call the secretary or your contact after you sent the email.

If you are meeting a business partner outside his office, take some newspapers, magazines, your favourite book or your laptop to keep you busy while waiting. Some may show up on time, others 15-30 minutes late but very few will arrive 15 minutes early.

If you are filing documents with a government agency or extending your visa, take someone to talk with or something to read if the procedure will take only several minutes, else set a next day appointment for pick up, if you’re busy.

Lastly, if you are meeting a friend in a restaurant or in a shop, try to wander in the neighbouring shops, talk to the owner of the restaurant or other foreign customers in the place so you won’t get bored or stared at by other people.

6. Try to have a Sense of Camaraderie

Filipinos like to befriend anyone especially those who just moved in their neighbourhood.

Glimpses or even stares will be your constant humanoid CCTV. It may be rude, but don’t get them wrong. They are merely learning what kind of person you are, checking your skin (race or nationality) and understanding your behaviour towards them. Once they learn these things, which usually take 24 hours from the time you unload your things, someone will stand as their leader to approach and ask you to meet the others.

However, if you have a Filipino friend with you, he/she will be your spokesperson.

If you are a guy, expect that you will be invited in every drinking session in the area, especially if it’s the “leader” who asks you. It is their honour.

If you are a woman, female Filipinas will come swarming your place asking everything about you, your family, your country and your culture. They will treat you like a princess and will take you anywhere a normal woman goes, particularly to the shopping centres and markets.

Don’t panic if these things seem too much for you. This is one of the many things Filipinos do in welcoming visitors or new residents in the neighbourhood.

If however, you are tired or busy and cannot commit, just tell them why you can’t go or be with them, and make a promise to find some time to go when you are free. They will understand and will not feel bad having their invitations turned down.

7. Exert an Effort to Learn the Language

It is of great pleasure for Filipinos to hear a foreigner trying to speak at least a word in Filipino or in local dialect. You may see fondness on their faces with contemptuous can’t-hold-for-long laughter or children may giggle at your foreign accent or pronunciation but don’t take it as an insult. They are simply surprised and impressed hearing a stranger like you, speaking Filipino or local dialect in your own way. It makes them feel proud of their history and culture. In return, you will gain their respect.

8. Try to Understand the Culture

Most Filipinos have a very strong sense of nationalism and religiosity. Try not to discuss or ask critical questions that will provoke them, unless you are talking to your friend whom you know will not get offended or the person you want to ask is open-minded.

If you are trying to establish a conversation with someone whom you are not certain on how he will react to your question, try starting the question with “Is it true…” or “Do you think…”

If your question is something serious that you think will put you in trouble (even if it really comes from you), try using “Someone I met in…”, “An author in the book I read…” or “In the news I watched….”. So when he gets agitated, your life is spared.

Do not use “My friend said…” or “My family told me…” because if any of your friends or relatives decided to visit or join you on your next trip, “your friend” or “your family” may be marked as the one who bad-mouthed or defamed the country. Then, you just put them in trouble.

On the other hand, most Filipinos don’t mind being asked about their religions and consequently presume that you won’t mind them asking about yours, especially if you will be part of their family. Don’t be offended it’s part of the culture of knowing what to expect and what to discuss in front of you. They won’t talk about their religion unless you are open to it or you are of the same denomination and willing to talk about it.

9. Don’t Get Involved with Drugs

Getting involved with drugs in Asia including in the Philippines is a very serious offence. Whether it’s methamphetamine or marijuana stay away from it if you still want to live. It can be your ticket to prison or free pass to your grave.

10. Don’t Overstay

Staying in the Philippines with expired passport or any travel document and staying more than the duration stated in your visa without the intention of rectifying your mistake is punishable by imprisonment and deportation with the possibility of getting blacklisted at any ports of entry.

A passport must be valid for at least six months to enter the Philippines. However, it is best that you renew your passport prior to entering the country if you only have seven months left to save you from any hassles.

Don’t forget to extend your visa if you are staying longer.

The immigration office provides ample time and complete information to process the papers for visa extensions which can be filed personally or through a representative from any Bureau of Immigration accredited travel agency or law firm.

11. Don’t Get Involve with a Beautiful Stranger

Due to some stereotype way of thinking that all foreigners, particularly white people are rich, there’s a possibility that you will be conned or victimized by a Filipina or Filipino desperate to have cash to support her/his family. Don’t be deceived by the innocent looks or never-been-with-anyone behaviour of the gorgeous person sitting across your table, on the webcam or photos online. She may be the exact opposite in real life.

Be aware that in the Philippines, mail-order brides or pen friends are strictly prohibited because it is considered as a form of human trafficking and prostitution.

12. Don’t Start an Argument

This is one of the big NO-NOs. Do not start an argument with a local especially if the topic will definitely offend the person. You may be at the winning side but a Filipino man will not want to lose face in his territory or in front of his friends.

13. Don’t Pick a Fight

This is the other big NO-NO. You may win the first round, but may end up in prison or die when he or his gang pays back.

14. Don’t Take Plenty of Cash

A foreigner walking alone with a thick wallet full of cash is like shark bait for prowling robbers, snatchers, thieves and even kidnappers.

15. Don’t Wear Jewelry or Accessory with High Value

Petty criminals are attracted at shiny, golden jewelry and branded watches.

16. Don’t Wear Expensive Clothes

If wallets and jewelry are hints for criminals to getting to the treasure, expensive clothing and accessories are invitations for hunting.

17. Don’t Travel Alone

Wherever you go, always take someone with you especially at night. If possible, avoid passing in dark alleys. Stay at a friend’s house or at a nearby hotel and wait the next day to go back to your place.

18. Don’t Stare or Point Your Finger

It is considered rude if you stare or point your finger when addressing at someone.

19. Don’t Swear

Swearing is regarded as impolite and for conservative, religious Filipinos it is a despicable manner influenced by evil.

20. Don’t Drive

Driving in the Philippines needs courage, technique and patience. You can be stuck in traffic for hours while anxiously listening at other drivers’ non-stoppable horns or be cut off at any intersection. In the Philippines and some parts in Asia, most drivers won’t give way and will make turns wherever they want without considering you’re behind, in front or almost crash at him.

The things you read above may be enough or in some ways too much for you to get by in the Philippines but these are just guidelines for your welfare. Remember, extra precaution is better than puncture!

Source: http://www.philippine-portal.com/life-in-the-philippines/dos-and-donts.html

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