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Marriage advice for Men

1) Never stop courting. Never stop dating. NEVER EVER take that woman for granted. When you asked her to marry you, you promised to be that man that would OWN HER HEART and to fiercely protect it. This is the most important and sacred treasure you will ever be entrusted with. SHE CHOSE YOU. Never forget that, and NEVER GET LAZY in your love.
2) PROTECT YOUR OWN HEART. Just as you committed to being the protector of her heart, you must guard your own with the same vigilance. Love yourself fully, love the world openly, but there is a special place in your heart where no one must enter except for your wife. Keep that space always ready to receive her and invite her in, and refuse to let anyone or anything else enter there.
3) FALL IN LOVE OVER and OVER and OVER again. You will constantly change. You’re not the same people you were when you got married, and in five years you will not be the same person you are today. Change will come, and in that you have to re-choose each other everyday. SHE DOESN’T HAVE TO STAY WITH YOU, and if you don’t take care of her heart, she may give that heart to someone else or seal you out completely, and you may never be able to get it back. Always fight to win her love just as you did when you were courting her.
4) ALWAYS SEE THE BEST in her. Focus only on what you love. What you focus on will expand. If you focus on what bugs you, all you will see is reasons to be bugged. If you focus on what you love, you can’t help but be consumed by love. Focus to the point where you can no longer see anything but love, and you know without a doubt that you are the luckiest man on earth to be have this woman as your wife.
5) IT’S NOT YOUR JOB TO CHANGE OR FIX HER… your job is to love her as she is with no expectation of her ever changing. And if she changes, love what she becomes, whether it’s what you wanted or not.

6) TAKE FULL ACCOUNTABILITY for your own emotions: It’s not your wife’s job to make you happy, and she CAN’T make you sad. You are responsible for finding your own happiness, and through that your joy will spill over into your relationship and your love.
7) NEVER BLAME your wife If YOU get frustrated or angry at her, it is only because it is triggering something inside of YOU. They are YOUR emotions, and your responsibility. When you feel those feelings take time to get present and to look within and understand what it is inside of YOU that is asking to be healed. You were attracted to this woman because she was the person best suited to trigger all of your childhood wounds in the most painful way so that you could heal them… when you heal yourself, you will no longer be triggered by her, and you will wonder why you ever were.
Allow your woman to JUST BE. When she’s sad or upset, it’s not your job to fix it, it’s your job to HOLD HER and let her know it’s ok. Let her know that you hear her, and that she’s important and that you are that pillar on which she can always lean. The feminine spirit is about change and emotion and like a storm her emotions will roll in and out, and as you remain strong and unjudging she will trust you and open her soul to you… DON’T RUN-AWAY WHEN SHE’S UPSET. Stand present and strong and let her know you aren’t going anywhere. Listen to what she is really saying behind the words and emotion.
9) BE SILLY… don’t take yourself so damn seriously. Laugh. And make her laugh. Laughter makes everything else easier.
10) FILL HER SOUL EVERYDAY… learn her love languages and the specific ways that she feels important and validated and CHERISHED. Ask her to create a list of 10 THINGS that make her feel loved and memorize those things and make it a priority everyday to make her feel like a queen.
11) BE PRESENT. Give her not only your time, but your focus, your attention and your soul. Do whatever it takes to clear your head so that when you are with her you are fully WITH HER. Treat her as you would your most valuable client. She is.
12) BE WILLING TO TAKE HER SEXUALLY, to carry her away in the power of your masculine presence, to consume her and devour her with your strength, and to penetrate her to the deepest levels of her soul. Let her melt into her feminine softness as she knows she can trust you fully.
13) DON’T BE AN IDIOT…. And don’t be afraid of being one either. You will make mistakes and so will she. Try not to make too big of mistakes, and learn from the ones you do make. You’re not supposed to be perfect, just try to not be too stupid.
14) GIVE HER SPACE… The woman is so good at giving and giving, and sometimes she will need to be reminded to take time to nurture herself. Sometimes she will need to fly from your branches to go and find what feeds her soul, and if you give her that space she will come back with new songs to sing…. (okay, getting a little too poetic here, but you get the point. Tell her to take time for herself, ESPECIALLY after you have kids. She needs that space to renew and get re-centered, and to find herself after she gets lost in serving you, the kids and the world.)
15) BE VULNERABLE… you don’t have to have it all together. Be willing to share your fears and feelings, and quick to acknowledge your mistakes.

16) BE FULLY TRANSPARENT. If you want to have trust you must be willing to share EVERYTHING… Especially those things you don’t want to share. It takes courage to fully love, to fully open your heart and let her in when you don’t know i she will like what she finds… Part of that courage is allowing her to love you completely, your darkness as well as your light. DROP THE MASK… If you feel like you need to wear a mask around her, and show up perfect all the time, you will never experience the full dimension of what love can be.
17) NEVER STOP GROWING TOGETHER… The stagnant pond breeds malaria, the flowing stream is always fresh and cool. Atrophy is the natural process when you stop working a muscle, just as it is if you stop working on your relationship. Find common goals, dreams and visions to work towards.
18) DON’T WORRY ABOUT MONEY. Money is a game, find ways to work together as a team to win it. It never helps when teammates fight. Figure out ways to leverage both persons strength to win.
19) FORGIVE IMMEDIATELY and focus on the future rather than carrying weight from the past. Don’t let your history hold you hostage. Holding onto past mistakes that either you or she makes, is like a heavy anchor to your marriage and will hold you back. FORGIVENESS IS FREEDOM. Cut the anchor loose and always choose love.
20) ALWAYS CHOOSE LOVE. ALWAYS CHOOSE LOVE. ALWAYS CHOOSE LOVE. In the end, this is the only advice you need. If this is the guiding principle through which all your choices is governed, there is nothing that will threaten the happiness of your marriage. Love will always endure.
In the end MARRIAGE isn’t about Happily ever after. It’s about work. And a commitment to grow together and a willingness to continually invest in creating something that can endure eternity. 
MEN- THIS IS YOUR CHARGE : Commit to being an EPIC LOVER. There is no greater challenge, and no greater prize. Your woman deserves that from you.


Be the type of husband your wife can’t help but brag about.

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Ideal Husband...

While browsing random stuffs I found this interesting article that really caught my attention. I think my fave is no. 8. Women are sucker for affection. This statement is just so true. Here is the complete article.

How to be a Good Husband?
Here are Eleven Qualities of a Good husband.

1) Be Pleasant: Nobody likes an arrogant man. Be pleasant to everyone around you including your wife, friends and family. Be warm, kind, positive, understanding and friendly. It is often heard said that ‘What we give is what we get back.’ Try to arrive home as cheery and lighthearted as you can even if you had a bad day at office or is physically exhausted after driving through the traffic jams. Just because your wife does not go out to work does not mean that her work is less strenuous. She might have been struggling with the children and the housework all day.

2) Respect the Vows: Faithfulness or Loyalty is one of the prime qualities a wife wants in her man. Have a sense of honor and duty.Remember that when you got married you took the sacred vows. The honorable thing is to fulfill the duty to your wife that you took upon yourself the day you got married. It is the duty of a man to provide for his family. Never expect your wife to contribute to the smooth operation of the household. Even in this day and age of women in the workplace, most prefer to have that as an option rather than a necessary part of their lives. Motherhood and caring for a husband and home usually takes priority for her. Never assume that the money you earn is yours to do with as you like. You have a family to think about now and their needs must always come before your own.

3) Reliable, Responsible and Supportive: Every Woman wants her partner to be reliable and be there for her when she needs her. Support your wife in all stages of life. Provide reassurance when she is feeling down. Do not belittle her or hurt her ego. If she is a working woman understand her work pressures and problems. Be proud of her on her accomplishments and do not forget to complement her. Be available for her when she needs a shoulder to cry or when she needs support from you. Let her know that you care for her. When you are not near her at least make a phone call to her even if you talk to her for only a minute or two. When you come back after work or on weekend do things with her or help her in whatever way possible. She would appreciate even if you are not much of help because you are tried to help her. Be a friend to her. When you don’t agree with her views respectfully let know that you don’t agree with reasons.


4) Adaptability and Sensitivity : As years pass on you'll see that glowing woman you fell in love with years ago does not look the same or behave in the same manner. She may be tied up with the pressures at home like needs of children, financial obligations etc. Allow her time to relax by taking some work off her shoulders or take some time out so that you can spend some time together relaxing. Be sensitive to the needs of your wife and looks to meet them. Do not let your feelings toward life's changes affect feelings toward your wife. An Ideal Man needs to be sensitive to the requirements of the partner, treat her as an equal, understand when she needs to stay late at work or help with housework and contribute to the expenses.

5)Show Respect: If you expect respect from others you need to treat others with respect too. Respect can be reflected in the way one talks and behaves. Always speak in a loving manner and refrain from speaking harshly. A good husband never chooses to belittle strike, humiliate or otherwise harm his wife in private or in public. It is better to watch what you say and to think your thoughts through before speaking as it is not possible to take back the words once they have been spoken. Treat her with respect in front of others and at home. Do not look at other ladies in front of her. Take in consideration her opinion when making important decisions of the family. If you are bringing your buddies home let her know in advance.

6) Judgment and Emotional Baggage: Many of us have emotional baggage. But do not bring that emotional baggage into the marriage. Many men praise their previous wives, girlfriends or mother in front of their wives. Avoid judging every action or opinion your wife has and understand that she is different from you. Her experiences and likings may be different from you too. Comparing her or making her feel that she does not measure up only would ruin your marriage.

7) Communication: Communication is the key to a good and solid marriage. Women also expect honesty in men. Honesty is what builds trust in your relationship with your woman. She may even forgive your mistakes but only if you are honest with her and promise not to do it again. Women like their men to be open to them at all times and not keep them in the dark about what is going on in their man’s life. Find time to sit and talk with your wife on a daily basis even if it is during the Dinner time. If you let things bottle up and feel that you cannot share with your wife then your marriage is in trouble. Be a good listener when she talks. Your wife too wants someone to listen to her and empathize with what's going on in her life. Listen avidly to your wife's complaints. Woman cannot resist a man who understands her moods, attitude, feelings, values, likes and dislikes. This would encourage her to open up with you and don’t keep secrets. Good Communication helps in building trust and strengthens your relationship. Make your woman laugh often. Women love men who are witty and have a sense of humor.Fights or problems may happen in between the two but do not let the world know about it rather solve it between yourselves. The fight you had last week over shopping or whatever is over and done with. So move on with it and stop rehashing old stuff and reminding her of her faults. Do not resort to name calling, hitting, spitting, breaking dishes or anything else when you lose your temper.



8). Love and Affection: Show your love and affection to her as often as possible. Every woman is a sucker of affection. If you only give them that stuff to get to bed, your wife is going to notice and think it's insincere. A good husband will appreciate his wife and will notice her, even after twenty or fifty years of marriage. She needs you to notice when she gets that new haircut or dresses up in something sexy for you to come home to. If you fail to notice what she is doing for you too many times, she may just count it as fruitless and quit. Gift your Partner something fancy when she least expects it. Surprise her by planning a trip, preparing a nice dinner, giving a bunch of her favorite flowers or taking her out for shopping. Every Woman likes to be pampered. Women, one way or the other, are nothing but over grown babies who constantly need care. But every woman has their likings, give things what she likes instead of forcing your likes on her and show her that you care and would be always there for her. Never forget the special days in her life. Make an effort to initiate spontaneous affection with your wife. Build the companionship by doing things together whether it is a common interest or hobby. Give her a hug or surprise kiss and tell her how much you love her. Hold hands with her when you’re out together. These small gestures show your wife that you’ve thought of her and help you reinforce your commitment to your wife.

9) Offer Protection: A woman need to feel safe and secured with her man. She needs to feel that when he is with her no one can harm her. You don't need to be a muscle man but at least when you are with her others should not be making a pass at her. She wants her man to behave like a man and treat her like a lady when she is with you.

10) Give her Space: As a Husband you need to understand that your wife has a life other than you also. She has her Parents, friends and colleagues who too are part of her life. She also may have some hobbies or passions he is involved in. Don’t expect her undivided attention. Don’t stop her if he wants to go out and hang out with her friends sometimes or engage in a hobby or want to spend some time with her parents.

11) Keep her happy in Bed: Sexual intimacy is one of the most essential things in any marriage. Good Sex helps tostrengthen your emotional and physical attraction to her. Please your wife in bed and be faithful to her. No woman would tolerate a cheating partner. Good sex plays a vital part when it comes to a satisfying relationship and if you are not skilled in bed that is going to be a major turn off. Never grumble about having to support children you didn't want to have. If you were irresponsible enough to help her get pregnant, then it is your duty to pay for that child. Do not bring porn into a relationship. Porn will only create unrealistic expectations in your mind about your spouse’s libido, body, and comfort level with weird sex positions.

In short, if you don't like how you partner treats you, take a minute to notice how you treat your partner and correct your behavior. If you are an ideal husband, that will help your wife to be an ideal wife. A wife usually responds to the way that she is treated. If she is treated like she is worthless, she will be worthless to you. But, if you treat her well, she will be a jewel in your crown, a pleasure to you and a forever blessing.

Source:
http://anamikas.hubpages.com/hub/How-to-be-a-good-Husband-to-your-Wife-10-Qualities

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Life in SG: Job Hunt

What I will share in this blog post is about my experience finding and landing a job in Singapore. I can't think of a word to describe it.. what I know is in the end HE did not let me fail. HE is with me from the very start. HE did not disappoint me. HE challenged me big time but when I found a job I knew that HE just did test me. So let me share with you what I've been through.




As soon as we arrive in SG last July of 2012 we started joining job portals, uploading our resumes, updating our profiles, applying for our target IT positions, and many more. In short, we did a full blast job hunting from day one. Luckily for Gyun Wo he was able to land a job in a matter of weeks of staying in SG. As for me, it took months and within those months I've been really challenged.

I forgot the exact date when I was first called and asked to attend for an interview. But I remember being jealous and worried every time Gyun Wo's phone ring and there's just a lot of calls and interview invites that he received. He is really in-demand. Hah! Me? I was like sending over and over again. Resending. Searching. Waiting. Worrying. Praying. Crying. Hoping. Then I was called for an interview for the position of Technical Writer. I was interviewed by two persons. Asked me about my work experiences and personal details. After that I was called again for a second interview. I was excited. I was hoping I have a big chance I'll get the job. I was interviewed by someone who looks like a boss. I was asked to do an essay about any topic I like. After the interview I met Gyun Wo who on that same day got an interview as well when he's still unemployed. Hehe. We were really hoping I'll be hired but unfortunately I wasn't. After days of waiting and making follow-ups I was told I will be called in case that I'm chosen for the position. But there's no call. No email confirmation. Nothing. Which means I did not qualify for the position or they did not like me enough.

After that interview I continued on my daily routine. I'm searching, updating my profile, and submitting CVs from morning til 8pm I guess. I keep on sending my applications. I keep on hoping, praying, though most of the times I'm crying and worrying I might not land a job. I only have limited time to stay in SG as tourist so it really bothered me. 

After a month of no luck, I applied for E-xtend and luckily it was approved so I was given another 30 days of stay here. Then I got another interview and I felt I did well and I have a big chance again especially because they told me they are looking for 4 testers. Actually I was called by an agency and scheduled an interview for me. While I'm on my way to the location and on my way home I keep on telling HIM to let it be it. Hoping this is it. Let HIM give this to me especially if HE think I deserve it. If not, I'll still try until I succeed. I keep on telling - "'Please let this be it. Let this be it. Please. Please. Please." The interview is pretty okay. It's normal. I told the interviewer everything she needs to know. Then it was done after minutes of talking. I went home and again.. waited. Days passed but I did not get confirmation that I was chosen to work there. 

After 2 months of stay and I did not get a job Gyun Wo and I went to Indonesia for vacation. It's a long story but it's more of like that. Vacation. We enjoyed the weekend getaway because of the Balinese massage, buffets, and the great hotel where we stayed. After the vacation we were back to SG and my passport was stamped with 30 days of stay. 30 days. I only have 30 days to do everything I could to get a job.

Then the agent called me again to tell me that she recommended me to another person from the same company and I was sent out for interview. But this time it's like more of discussion of what I'll expect if I get accepted. It's not really a typical interview. The person who talked to me discussed the process and what I should be doing if hired. She looks nice and smart. After that I got a call and email from the agent telling me to send them important documents to process my work permit. At first I was just in a hurry to send them my scanned docs and filled up forms they sent me.I asked Gyun Wo if this means I'm hired and he said probably yes. I was confused because the agent did not directly told me I passed the interview. Well then she processed my work permit. I went somewhere for the medical exam. Then I was advised on when I was expected to start working. After that I began living my dream. I was able to work and live somewhere far from home. I learned a lot of things. I feel so blessed.


So now you see how tough it can be. I know from the moment I decided to leave my job in PH and flew here that it's a big jump. It's risky. It's scary. I know there's a possibility that I won't get a job and I won't have any choice but to go back to PH and work there again. But the thing is, I worked hard. I prayed so hard. I believed in myself. My faith became stronger. I did everything I could to succeed and I did. It wasn't easy. I cried many times. I worried a lot. But that did not stop me from doing the best that I can to go forward and try again. It wasn't easy but it is not impossible. The more that I'm scared that I won't get a job, the more persistent I become to do everything I can to make sure I'll get one. 

It's been a difficult experience but I did not remember myself wanting to give up or considering the option to give up. You know why? Because this is my dream from the very beginning. It's my promise to myself and to my family. A dream that became a promise, then became a goal, a plan, and eventually it turns out to be my life now. I'm living my dream this is what I always say. My dream I couldn't believe that I made it to reality. I was not alone in the journey. There are a lot of people who helped me. Most of all, God did not let me fail my mission when HE saw how I determined I am to succeed no matter how hard it is. 

I guess I only have some advice I want to share with you based on my experience. Dream. Believe in yourself. Work Hard. Have Faith. Do your best. Do not be afraid. Be Thankful no matter what the outcome.. and Do Not Give Up. :)

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Life in SG: First Haircut

In this post I will write about my experience about my first haircut in SG. Well, at first I'm not really rushing into getting it cut because I still love my waves but whenever I look in the mirror I feel sad when I see how dry and damage it looks like even if I've already had a Keratin Hair Treatment in the Philippines last April. It doesn't look healthy. It's color becomes too bright. It's dry. It's ugly. It's long. Then seeing it's condition, I decided to browse great salons here. I want a salon that does not cost much but the quality of service is close to superb. Know what I mean? Hah! Anyway, I started browsing, googling on different haircuts that will look good on me and a cut that will hide my chubby cheeks. Haha! I also checked on different salons here.

Gyun Wo suggested to try Kobayashi salon in Orchard Far East Plaza. He once been there and he is satisfied with the service so he decided that he will always go there for his monthly haircut.I've read great reviews about the salon so I agreed that it's a good choice. Salon - checked.

Next, haircut. Which oooooooooone???! I've downloaded a lot of photos from Google and check them one by one. Haircuts such as bob, layered bob, pixie cut, medium layered cut, medium shaggy, until I saw a photo of my fave actress in The Vampire Diaries TV series. Candice Accola. I checked on her hairstyles and found one that really caught my attention. So, yeah, there, haircut - checked.


August 8. Our monthsary. It's a holiday here in SG. We decided to go out and get our hair cut in Kobayashi salon! I forgot what time we arrived in the salon but I remember waiting for quite some time. As we approached the salon, we were told to wait and served green tea. Stylist for Gyun Wo arrived after few minutes of waiting and he started chopping his hair after GW instructed what hairstyle he wants to have. Then a pretty and tall girl approached me and started talking Chinese! I said Sorry and she's surprised because she thought I'm Chinese. She told me to wait for a while since she needs to blow dry the hair of another customer. I said it's fine and then she left. So.. I waited.. and waited.. and waited. I've checked on the 3 magazines given to me. I've tweeted and checked on the tweets of my friends. I checked on Facebook. I waited for like I don't know the exact time but it was quite longer than I expected.


After the long wait she came to me and talked about some things I can't recall. I showed her the photo of Candice with the hairstyle I want to have. Then after the chitchat we went to the section where I was asked to lie down and then she started washing my hair. We talked about quite a lot of things like me hating hairstyles that emphasize my chubby face, she thought we were tourists, she thought we were Chinese, she said my eye lashes are long, and then she offered me the special Shampoo and Conditioner from Japan especially made for Damaged Hair like mine. I agreed to use it on my hair which will cost an additional $10 on my bill. She washed and massaged my head. It felt good and relaxing. I had fun talking to her though sometimes I don't understand so I just nod and laugh but in my mind I was like ('What??? Oookaaay.. Whatever. You're nice so I'll just laugh.)

When she's done washing my hair and massaging my head, she gave me a poster where she pointed the shampoo and conditioner that she used for my hair. After a while she started cutting my long wet waves. At first she cut it in a not so short length and asked me if I like it, I told her 'shorter' which means cut it shorter. And she did. Then she showed me again and asked if that's fine and I said 'yes' while nodding. So she continued cutting. 

Then after the cutting part she started drying and styling it. When Gyun Wo's done he told me he will go first to walk around the mall and then paid for our bill. So, she continues to style my hair and I noticed that she tried to do the hairstyle of Candice in the photo I showed her. After a few minutes it's done! The result? Mmm.. at first I thought I look older than I actually am! Haha! But I smiled at her, nodded, and thanked her. I went to the reception and asked if my bill is paid to confirm Gyun Wo paid the correct amount since he might not know the additional fee for the shampoo and conditioner. The man confirmed GW paid already and then he gave me his business card and so is the stylist who did my haircut. Haircut for women costs $38, for men it's $28.

After leaving the salonI directly went to the washroom to check how is it. I look at myself, my hair, and I realized I love it. It looks great! I'm happy! Hah! Then I called GW to know where he went while waiting for me. When he saw me he told me the cut looks good on me so that made me even happier. His cut is short too and it made him look younger than me. -_- Hah!

So there, that's my experience for my first haircut in SG. By the way, my stylist is Vivian. She is known to be one of the best stylist in Kobayashi salon in Orchard. She is always being requested by customers and I'm happy she's the one who did my hair. She's friendly, bubbly, and pretty. Oh and she's TALL! Hah! If I'd be asked to rate my experience, salon, and stylist in Kobayashi I'd give it a 5 out of 5. I'd definitely go there again next time. 

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Life in SG: Transportation

In this post I will share about Transportation. I find it very difficult to explain because there's just so many things I want to share about this topic. I mean, I have to admit that I'm not good when it comes to directions so this is really one of the things that I worry when we started living here. In the PH it's easy since I just go to places near our house or office, and sometimes I'm with my friends or family to help me in case I don't know the place right? But here? It's like I have to depend on myself. Gyun Wo is with me but he is not always by my side as he needs to do things for himself, right? So that really scared me. So let's start.

It is often said that getting around Singapore is a breeze. There is no traffic unlike in PH. Almost all of the vehicle owners and drivers are disciplined enough that they follow the traffic rules. If the light turns orange/yellow, then they will slow down, if it's red, they will stop, and if it's green, they will go. It's as simple as that. It's fast, convenient, and safe.

Here in SG when it comes to Transportation you have 3 options - taxi, bus, and train.



1) Taxi - We only take a cab either because we are really late and the bus or train is taking so long to arrive, or because it's too late that we missed the last trip for both. Otherwise, we usually take bus and train. The starting fare is $S2-3. I can't share much about this because we don't usually take cabs unless we have no choice. You can pay by cash or ezlink card or nets. You can Google the terminologies for more information.

2) Bus - My favorite especially if I get to sit in a comfortable spot. There are different types of buses with different numbers that go to different routes. 
Bus Stop - check the bus stop name and number, there are also bulletin boards that are always in each bus stop with the bus numbers and the bus stops that they pass by. For example: Bus Stop Name: Blk 953, Bus Nos. that pass by on the stop: 70, 70M, 103, 854, etc., For each of this bus number the bus stops they pass by are also listed. 

Taking a bus. If you are taking the next bus, it's better to stretch your hand and make sure the driver sees it before he even approach the stop where you are waiting. Drivers are known as bus captains If you know how to call a pedicab or tricycle driver or taxi, it's similar when calling the attention of a bus captain. Once it stopped, get in and tap in using ezlink card. (EZLINK Card - a prepaid card that you need when it comes to taking buses, trains, or even taxis. You can usually buy this on all MRT stations.)

Inside the bus. Most of the buses and trains have these reserved seats for pregnant women, elders, disabled, and those that are with kids. If you see these seats better avoid sitting on them. I usually sit at the back if there's available seats. If you're using Google Maps, well you better use it, so you'll know how many bus stops will it take before you'll reach your destination. Gyun Wo and I used to count the bus stops and sometimes we still do that. Hehe. Or better if you sit near the window where you can easily see the name for each bus stop as you enjoy your ride. 


Getting Off. When it's time to get off, when you're quite near to your target bus stop you will need to press the STOP button that you can see on all poles inside the bus. Or if you see the BUS STOPPING label at the top near the mirror of the bus captain, if the label becomes RED or lit then it means someone already pressed the STOP so you don't need to press again. Tap out using ezlink card. Do not forget to tap in and tap out. If you don't tap in then it means you did not pay your ride. You can't tap out because you did not tap in. But if you did tap in and forget to tap out, well the fare for the last destination of the bus will be charged in your card. By the way, you need to get in the bus on the entrance door which is usually the one near the bus captain, and the exit door is usually located at the back.

3) Train - If you want the fastest way to get somewhere then take the train. Hah! MRT has yellow/circle line, purple line, green line, and red line. You might want to check the latest MRT Map of Singapore if you want to know more about the colored lines I'm talking about. I always have this MRT Map photo on my phone because to be honest until now I don't memorize the whole map. Hah! So yeah, you will really need this to be saved in your phone. 



Entrance/Exit. You will need to ask Google about it. These are usually near bus stops and malls. You just have to be observant to things and places around you. To find your way inside the mrt station you have to read the signs and observe where people are going. Once you found your way in, use your ezlink to tap in and wait for your train. There are a lot of signs and sometimes they might look complicated or confusing but they are not. You just need to relax, read, and think. There are also MRT maps inside the station and staff that you can approach in case you don't know what to do. Hah!

There are usually monitors that shows when will it arrive. Once the train arrived get in and get off in the right stop. Tap out and get out the station in your target exit.

Aside from Google Maps you can also check gothere.sg which can be of big help when you're getting around SG and you're alone. It will tell you which exit to take in order to get to your destination. Google Maps is great when checking if you're walking in the right direction or if you're near or far from your target bus stop as it lists the bus stops that you will pass by as you ride the indicated bus number. On the other hand, gothere.sg will help you which exit to take and its more easy to understand but not so detailed I guess.

By the way, it's also important to make sure that you have at least S$5 in your ezlink card before tapping in when you're taking trains. There are general ticketing machine inside the mrt station where you can 'top up' which means add value to your ezlink card. There are instructions how to do it so you don't need to worry. 

If you're like me who is not so good when it comes to balance, make sure that you hold onto the poles as you ride buses and trains. If you cannot find one then position your feet in a way that you won't stumble as the ride becomes bumpy. Not sure what term to use but there. Hah!

Once you're done with buses and trains and you're on your way to finding the building or mall or place you want to visit, use Google Maps and if it's not helping, it's better to ASK. Sometimes it's also important to analyze the direction being suggested by Google Maps because you can't always rely on it. There's this one time that it suggested to walk around in order to get to our target destination when we can do a shortcut which is better.

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Life in SG: People

Here's a late blog post.. I wrote this last Monday and it's only now that I get a chance to post it so here it is..


It's a rainy cold Monday morning and I feel so sleepy because of the drowsiness side effect of my new eye drop for anti-glaucoma. Anyway, since I'm not yet so busy with my work today I decided to write something about our life here in SG. Today it will be about the people in SG. So, let's start.

Singaporeans, Chinese, Malaysians, Indians, Filipinos, Americans, and British are just some of the people that you'll see in Sinagpore. You can easily identify if someone is Chinese, American, or Indian but distinguishing someone who is Asian is quite difficult for me. Some Malaysians look Filipinos, some Chinese looks Malaysians.

There are some places where these group of people usually stay in Singapore.. People from Sri Lanka can be usually seen in a Mall in City Hall which is called Peninzula Plaza where we went before to purchase a ticket that I can use for my exit strategy. There is also Little India here where you can see a lot of Indians. Farrer Park is where you can also find Indians and some Americans. There is also Chinatown where you can find a lot of Chinese. Now if you want to look for a place where Filipinos like me usually go for malling or buying Filipino goods then you have to go to Orchard especially the Lucky Plaza mall.

If you don't have any idea about this country you might think that its citizens or the people known as Singaporeans/S'poreans are all chinese..but nah.. you're wrong.Singapore citizens can be Chinese, Malay, and/or Indian, or combination of some races. You can ask Google for more details about this one if you want to know about it.

Enough of the races, let me share with you my observation about the people here. As you enter a bus or a train notice how people of all ages around you. I'm sure that you'll notice that they have something in common..a gadget. You can see they are all busy listening to songs, watching videos, playing games, or talking to someone using their mobile phones, tablets, etc. You can often see different color, brand, style of earphones and headsets on different people.

Aside from the people being techie I can also describe them as fashionable people. The way they dress is just sooooo lovely. From babies to grannies, oh my gosh, they all look so cute. Different people with different fashion styles, it's just so inspiring. Haha! I can see people wearing skirts, knit shirts, dresses, etc. Most of them are on Korean Fashion Style be it a woman, man, or even elders. I've also seen people with different hair colors - pink, green, purple, orange, blonde, etc.. some looks good on it and some are just.. oh well, as long as you're confident and comfortable with anything that you wear I guess that's fine.

By the way, unlike in some countries when you wear a certain outfit that is far from normal some would normally give you stares as if you did something very wrong, right? But here, most of the time they don't care what you wear. They are used to seeing girls wearing skirts, dresses, etc. But even so, for me.. I think it is important to make sure you still look pretty decent.

I forgot when was it exactly, but one night the uncle near our unit called me and then went in their house to get something, he gave me a box and told me the post man is looking for me that afternoon but since I'm at work he get it for me. I did not expect that he will do that because I'm used to getting my packages from the post office in the mall near us. I like online shopping but since we are usually in the office, many times the deliveries failed and I end up getting them in SingPost of Hougang Mall. But this time I don't have to do that because uncle get it for me. So nice. I was so happy. I said my thank you as I get the box.

Btw, unlike in other countries, in SG you cannot see a lot of security guards or police at the mall or anywhere. Usually they're all around you but you won't know them because they are dressed as civilians. You can see them wearing uniform only during special occasions or in the police station. Cool right?

At work sometimes when they have a box of cupcakes they usually walk around sharing it with the people they've worked with and even to those they haven't spoken with. Their English skills are great as well though sometimes when talking to some people I can't understand what they say and I often find myself asking them to repeat it.. maybe it's because of their accent and pronunciation. But they are mostly nice.

People here are health conscious. I often see them running around every night. Teenagers, young adults, adults, elder people usually do exercise. Elders usually do this every morning and young adults/teenagers can only exercise every night after school or work hours. They also like to eat healthy food and drinks. They all look skinny and healthy. 

They like traveling. Being a citizen of a first world country there are just numerous of advantages that you can avail when you can. Most of them loves traveling to different countries especially in Australia. They love traveling.. I guess that says it all.

Some people here can be so impatient sometimes, some can be rude, etc.. you just have to experience it yourself to know what I'm trying to say and how you can deal with it I heard stories from some friends telling me that some of their colleagues are working for their own benefit, asking help from others but claiming that they did it all by their selves, etc. 

Hmm.. I think that's all I can share for this post. I don't know what else to write about them. If you happen to visit SG notice the people around you, the way they look, talk, interact, etc. You might have different opinions about them compared to what I just shared in this post. Just remember to always be nice and respectful. 

Here are some additional about Singaporean characteristics found in this website http://newnation.sg/2013/02/characteristics-and-behaviour-of-our-3-3-million-singaporean-population/

Personality: Outgoing only with friends, nit-picky, can be hardworking and business-like, formal, like to LAN gaming, humble, but can be a show-off for those who are rich.

Favourite hangout: Orchard Road, Bugis Junction, Toa Payoh central, City Harvest, JCube, Zouk, Sentosa, VivoCity

Popular jobs: Give tuition, SAF regular, entertainment industry, modelling, blogshop owner, engineering, MediaCorp, SPH, advertising, banking, SingPost, food reviewer, freelance photographer

Pay range: Depend on kind of jobs acquired but between $500 to $25,000 per month.

Niche skills: Speak Singlish, use fake ang moh accent when speaking with Caucasians regardless whether Caucasians are from Russia, France or England. And like to bargain hard in Bangkok.

Bad habit: Like to pretend to sleep while sitting on reserved seat on the train, STOMP others, like to take MC, play with smartphone, enjoy sex scandals in the media, too quiet at times, overly attached to smartphone/ tablet, like to say KNNBCCB.

Women are portrayed to be materialistic and career-driven. But in reality, a lot of them would rather marry a rich man. And own a blogshop.

Men are thought to be underwhelming and not aggressive enough when pursuing their women. Not able to take initiative and can be too soft-spoken. Short penis.

Favourite past time: Watch Running Man, shop at ASOS, sing karaoke, BBQ, go chalet, shopping, eating, visit underage prostitute (some only), go church, go supper, drink alcohol, watch EPL.

Social integration: Clique-ish, but okay as tend to talk only in mainland Singlish but can communicate well in English with others, unless called upon to give presentation in boardroom. Needs to brush up on Mandarin. Generally more talkative with ang mohs, due to colonial hangover.

Citizenship: Many Singaporeans like hassle-free travelling benefits associated with their Singaporean passport but they always end up going to Bangkok, Hong Kong and Perth. Many thought of applying for citizenship in Australia, New Zealand and United States. But not enough drive to actually fill up the form and emigrate.


Latest bugbear: The rich like to hoard property. Those can drive like to illegal parking. Go hawker centre eat already don’t want to clear plate.

P.S. I don't own the photos I included in this blog post.

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Life in SG: Food

If there is one word that I can use to describe the food in Singapore that would be 'HEALTHY'. Yes, correct, the food are mostly healthy. 

A lot of food stalls or canteen-like stores which are popularly known as HAWKERS can be found all around Singapore. Since most of the people here are too busy at work that they don't have time to cook as they get home, they have Hawkers where they can go and have their favorite meal with friends, colleagues, families, etc. There are stores that offers Western Food such as fried chicken, fries, etc. Food chains such as KFC, McDonalds, Burger King, PizzaHut, etc. can also be found here. Most of the stores offers Asian Food such as Thai, Korean, Japanese, Chinese, Malaysian, Indonesian, and even Indian food.

At first I don't have any idea what the food taste like until I have tried them. If you're thinking that most of the food includes noodles you are not mistaken. Most of them offers noodles cooked in varieties. 

To be honest the food does not look so appetizing, it does not taste so good, but it is definitely healthy as it contains many vegetables and different spices and ingredients which are all beneficially good for our body. 

I'm not also good at remembering the names of the food that we always order. Hehe! Most of the time I just point at them or tell them which meal number or food number I want to order so I won't confuse the order taker. Here, you need to use simple and direct English to make things easier to understand. 

For example, if you are buying food but you want to take it home so you can eat there, you can say '1 tapaw or takeaway' and then point at the food you want. But if it's store displays photos with numbers and name of each food, then you can just say '1 number 3' and better yet you can mention the name. '1 number 3 Char Siew Rice', something like that. There are instances that even if you said the number correctly they will end up giving you the food that you did not choose to order. In some hawker stores you'll need to choose 1 meat and 1 veggie combo meal. 

Aside from 'Hawkers' that can be found almost anywhere especially near HDB houses, they also have 'Kopitiam' which is similar to hawkers only that these are usually found at the mall which means it's slightly more expensive to eat here especially because it's air conditioned and it's located at the mall.

My fave food so far are the ffg: 
KOREAN - Saba Fish meal set, Chicken/Beef meal set, Bulgogi, and many more except Bibimbob because it's so spicy and I think I've had enough of it when we're still in PH haha!

THAI - sweet and spicy chicken wings and meatballs

INDONESIAN - I looooove the grilled/barbequed chicken and their grilled stingray fish, each meal is served with coleslaw salad and fried tofu as side dishes.. 

JAPANESE - the ramen they serve here tastes good but its expensive so its not really my favorite. Haha! I like buying different kinds of sushi though in Cold Storage! Hah!

CHINESE - Chicken rice but I prefer to order Pork rice, pork rib noodle soup (our favorite breakfast every Sunday morning after jogging! taste like 'bachoy' or 'mami' food in PH.. well I love the meals they serve especially with veggies.. sorry can't remember the names.. they all taste good but be careful for those which can be so spicy especially Indian food. 

INDIAN/MALAY - I'm not sure if it is Indian food or Malay but I also like the food in 'Nasi Padang' store! I usually order beef, tofu, shrimp with veggies, etc.

FILIPINO - since we miss our food in PH we usually go to Orchard (a place in Singapore where you can find Lucky Plaza a place filled with Filipinos) so we can eat Filipino food like sinigang, lumpiang shanghai, kare-kare, and many more. Sadly most of the hawkers here does not serve Filipino food, I don't know why.

Oh and another thing that you need to know, the meals being served in hawkers here does not include drinks. You'll need to buy separately for your drink. There is usually one stall where it solely serves drinks and desserts where you can buy or you can wait for 'uncle' (an old man) who is often walking around asking the people what drinks to order and once he gave your drinks that's the time you need to pay. I usually order 'barley', 'teh si' (hot milk tea), or 'teh si ping' (iced milk tea).

Milk Tea is very popular here. It's like it's the country's most famous drink! Hah! Be it a bubble tea, hot milk tea, classic milk tea, flavored milk tea, they all have it here. They all taste so good. I love milk tea but I don't like chewing tons of black pearls! I don't know maybe because I'm just too lazy to chew, I just want to savor the sweetness of the tea. Hah!

The price range for food starts from S$3 and above and that does not include drinks yet. You can get a meal in a hawker for S$3 but if you're going to eat in Kopitiam expect it to be more expensive. There are also food courts inside the malls where you can eat which is again more expensive than the price that you'll need to pay if you're eating in a hawker.

The food that they serve in Hawkers, Kopitiam, and Food Courts are almost exactly the same. There's slightly difference in the price and variety plus the environment of course.

Oh I almost forgot, you might also see elders walking around the hawker, kopitiam, or food court looking for people who are done eating and approaching their table to get the dirty plates, glass, etc and place them on a section for cleaning.. it's normal. Sometimes they wait for you to finish your meal and asks you to confirm you're really done eating so they can clean the table. Why? So when you leave, they won't need to rush to clean it for the next people who will use the table. And maybe they find themselves productive whenever they clean a lot of tables.

Sometimes I pity them because at their age they should just stay at home, relax, spend time with their family and enjoy the best of their life.. but instead they need to wake up early or go home late because they need to work and earn money for themselves or their families. I guess they have their own reasons, but if I'm their daughter I'd want them to just stay at home to relax and enjoy being old. 

I'm sure you can get more information about the food in SG by asking Google. This is all I can share for now. I also think it's better to just try the food for yourself and experience it instead of me telling you what to eat, right?

Stay tuned for more information about my observation while 'temporarily' living in Singapore.

Here are some of the photos I took when we are just starting to live our new life here in SG. Food-shots! 

My favorite Red Bean Bun bread. Best eaten when it's freshly baked!

Ice kachang (dessert), bandung drink (don't like), and bibimbob

Variety of meat, fish, veggies, with soup meals

Spicy Noodles, RBB bread, and Barley ( I asked for mineral water and I got this sweet drink that I love)

Forgot the name but it's like turo-turo

Choose a number from varieties of desserts being served at the hawker

Looks like PH's Halo-Halo right?

Hotdog sandwich, fries, and iced milo after a quite long walk

Milk Tea!!!!

Egg Tarts

Meat and Veggies from Hawker

Pork something.. forgot the name.. XD

Noodle soup (don't remember the exact name)

Noodles galore!


Noodles in hot pot.. healthy.. tasty seafood noodle soup..


Some meals are often served with free soup

Ice Kachang (not a fan but Gyun Wo is)


Bibimbob

Forgot the name -_-

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Life in SG: Language


Language Used: English and Mandarin

Most of the people can read, write, and communicate in English. Some calls it as Sing-lish (Singaporean-English?) because of how they deliver it. They have a suffix lah/loh/leh/lor I don't know which is the correct spelling but it is pronounced as 'la'. For example, if someone is answering a question, he will answer like, 'no LAH', 'of course LAH', 'forgot it LAH'. 

Sometimes people speak Mandarin when talking to us, I don't know if Gyun Wo and I look Chinese or Singaporean. Once they started talking Mandarin and we answered back 'Sorry?' then they'll know and they will start to speak English. There are also times when we will ask someone in English but he will answer in Filipino/Tagalog, our language! Hah!

When we are new here it's quite difficult to communicate with their native people because of their pronunciation. Well actually until now sometimes I don't get what they're saying, I always need to ask them to repeat it. I remember when I ordered for drinks. I just thought of buying a bottle of water to make it simpler since I don't know what drinks do they serve. I asked Auntie to give me one bottle of mineral water and she kept on saying something I don't understand. -_- In the end, I just said 'Yes' while nodding and waited on what she will give me. When she's done, she gave me a glass of something that looks like 'buko juice'. I laughed when I told Gyun Wo about my conversation with Auntie. But when I tried the drink, oh men, it tasted sooo good. It's a bit sweet and refreshing drink. Later on I found out that it is called Barley drink. Since then, it became one of my favorite drinks. Barley.

Some speaks little English so you have to speak simple words and don't complicate things when you start to notice that your conversation is starting to confuse you. Hehe! But admirably, most of the people speaks good English. Sometimes people who are better in English will help you communicate with people if they noticed that you're having a hard time understanding. 

People also can't pronounce letters like 'R' and 'L' properly. But what's important is they can speak in English. It will be sooo hard if they can only use Mandarin for communicating, right? 

As for me, I only know few words that I learned here such as 'TAPAW' or 'TAKEAWAY' which means 'TAKE-OUT' when buying meal. 'AIYOO' is an expression which is similar to Korean's 'AIGOO', and Philippines' 'AY NAKU'. Hmm.. what else.. can't remember anymore.. aiyoo.. haha! Gyun Wo usually does all the talking and sometimes I can also see him smiling while asking what the person mean.. in short, he's also having a hard time sometimes. 

Ah by the way, if for Koreans middle-age or a bit old lady is known as Ajumma, in Singapore it is 'Auntie'. For male in Korea it is Ajusshi, in SG it is 'Uncle'. 

Oh, izzit?: “That’s interesting.” / “Oh, is that true?” / "Really?"
So how?: “So what do we do now?”
Alamak!: A general expression of dismay or incredulity. 
Can can!: “Yes, definitely.”
Auntie / Uncle: A respectful form of an address for an older man / woman, respectively. 
Can/Cannot: Equivalent to Yes/No
Tapaw: also known as Takeaway = Take Out..
Having here? / Eat here? - Dine in
Aiyoo = OMG
Sorry = this is sometimes use instead of Excuse Me when passing by a crowded place
Actually = most of the times people start their sentence with this word

You can try to ask Google for more Singlish words and phrases that you might hear once you are here in SG. 

Well, I guess that's it for the Language. I will write more later if I'm in the mood.. if not, I'll find time to share more with you. :>

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Life in SG: Essentials..

What you need to know before going somewhere far from home...
1) Country's Rules (Dos and Donts)
2) Accommodation
3) Transportation
4) Food
5) People
6) Language

You also need to check more details about the following:
7) Job Hunting
8) Work Pass
9) Work Ethics

Other information you need to know if you're into job hunting...
10) Visit Pass validity
11) E-extend (1 month extension)
12) Exit techniques

Sooner or later I will try to share my experiences for the items listed above..

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