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An online diary of someone who tends to forget easily.

Oprah on Men... - reblogged

HEAR WHAT OPRAH WINFREY HAD TO
SAY ABOUT MEN :

If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away.
If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay. Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior. Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.

Stop trying to change yourself for a relationship that's not meant to be. Slower is better. Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy. If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no, you can't "be friends". A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend.

Don't settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is. Don't stay because you think "it will get better." You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better. The only person you can control in a relationship is you. Avoid men who have a bunch of children by a bunch of different women. He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, why would he treat you any differently? Always have your own set of friends separate from his. Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you. If something bothers you, speak up. Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later.

You cannot change a man's behavior. Change comes from within. Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are. Even if he has has more education or in a better job. Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more nothing less.

Never let a man define who you are. Never borrow someone else's man. If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you. A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you. All men are NOT dogs.

You should not be the one doing all the bending... Compromise is two way street. You need time to heal between relationships. There is nothing cute about baggage... Deal with your issues before pursuing a new
relationship. You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you. A relationship consists of two WHOLE
individuals. Look for someone complimentary...
not supplementary.

Dating is fun... Even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr. Right. Make him miss you sometimes... When a man always know where you are, and you're always readily available to him ~ he takes it for granted. Never move into his mother's house. Never co-sign for a man. Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need. Keep him in your radar but get to know others.

Scared of being alone is what makes a lot of women stay in relationships that are abusive or hurtful: Dr. Phil says... You should know that: You're the best thing that could ever happen to anyone and if a man mistreats you, he'll miss out on a good thing. If he was attracted to you in the 1st place, just know that he's not the only one. They're all watching you, so you have a lot of choices. Make the right one. Ladies take care of your own hearts... ❤

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AFH...

9 months and 18 days... I've been AFH for that long already. I can't believe how time flies so fast. By the way AFH means 'Away From Home'.


I remember how Gyun Wo and I used to talk about our plan of going to a different country and to experience different things and meet different kind of people as we start our life together in a place which is miles away from home.

From the dreaming of being able to live and work abroad alone to learn a lot of things to sharing this dream to someone who I did not expect that will become my partner in crime.. until now that we are already living our dream.. I just feel so blessed for everything. I never thought it would be this exciting! We are still learning a lot of things as we go on our journey but as long as we have each other and our loved ones who are so loving and supportive to us I know that sooner or later our hardworking while we are here will result into something that we will be forever grateful. We took risks and God never left us. HE is with us with every step of the way and HE did not leave our loved ones.. HE makes sure they are always happy and safe.

I decided to post about this because I'm proud and happy. Soon I'll blog more about when we were just starting to adjust with the changes here. 

I used to dream going here alone but HE knows it' better to have a companion.. not only for this journey but someone who will be with me no matter what.

We are away from our families and friends. Most of the time we only have each other. But even if we are AFH I always think that no matter how far we may be from our loved ones, I just remind myself of a quote that says something like this 'We might always see each other but we are just living under the same blue sky, I could never be that far.' Sooner or later our goals here will all be done and we will go back to our hone countru to share whatever we have to our loved ones.

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Love is like measles...


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