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Life in SG: Introduction


Hello there! So.. I've been always planning and saying that one of these days I will share with you how it's like to live in Singapore. Since it's a weekend and I don't have much to do but to stay at home for today, I decided to start sharing now! Yup.. I want to share things that I can remember so if in case you want to go here to travel or to work then you'll have ideas on what it's like to be here, to work here, to live here, etc. I might not cover a lot of things about living in Singapore, but let's see how much I can share with you. Btw, the main focus of the next blog posts that I'm going to write is more about working and living here in SG. So here it is.

If you're someone who is thinking or planning or determined to work and live somewhere for whatever reasons you might have, the most important thing to do is to make sure that you are PREPARED. You must make sure that you are mentally, physically, financially, emotionally prepared. You must be! It's not going to be an easy adventure but it's not impossible to succeed for someone who knows what he wants and how to get it. So you're gonna need a PLAN.

PLAN. Make a plan for your upcoming adventure. What kind of work do you want? How long do you plan to stay here to live and work? What are the possible things that may happen along the way that can cause failure? You need to consider every side of everything. What if you succeed? What if you failed? You must have a PLAN.

RESEARCH. When you have come up with a plan and you are determined to achieve it. It becomes a goal. So the next thing to do is to do your research. Go explore WWW and search for everything that you need to know. You can't just go in a battle without bringing any weapon or strategy to win it, right? Search more about the country, how it's like to live and work here. What's the cost of living. How cheap or expensive the food, transportation, etc. How are the people. What are the laws. Do you research. Read. Read a lot.

RESUME. Update your resume. Search for a professional template that you can use. As much as possible make it a 2 page resume with important content. Do not put stuffs such as Class President, Member of Honor Students, etc. Do not put trainings you have attended when you're a student. You need to include information as a professional not as a student. Make sure you highlight important notes that can get the attention of the reader. Do more research to come up with a powerful resume. Oh, make sure you have a good looking 2x2 picture on your resume. Please do not put your photo wearing your graduation toga. I remember someone shared that putting such photo is like telling the recruiter that you are a fresh graduate. They need to see you as a professional individual not a fresh graduate. You need to look and act professional.

UPLOAD. Register and upload your resume to different job portals and start applying to positions that you want. It's important to become visible as early as possible. If someone called then great, if none, then keep on trying.

SAVINGS. Start saving. Based on your plan and research, how much is your target amount before going here? You need to know how long you intend to stay here if in case you did not get a job sooner than you expected. You have to make sure you are financially prepared.



Well there are a lot of things that you should consider before going here in Singapore or anywhere that you want to go. Especially if your plan is to find a job and live there for quite some time. You can't just go here just because some of your friends went and succeed in landing a good job. You can't just go and expect that you'll get a job because God is with you. You need to work closely with HIM. 

It will take a lot of patience and faith. It won't be very easy. It will be sometimes stressful. You will become depressed. You will miss your life before you went here. You will miss the people you left. You will miss the simple things you can't find here. You will miss the life you used to live. But you know what's so great about taking risks? It's the adventure. The stories that you can share. If you failed you will learn a lot that you can use in the future in case you want to give it a try again. If you succeed, well, there's just so much happiness that you will surely feel.. so much happiness that you might cry while thanking HIM and everyone who helped you achieve it. 

The first thing to do is to make sure that you are 100% sure of what you're going to do. You will take risks. It doesn't guarantee that you'll succeed but it's not impossible to achieve your goals if you are determined and courageous enough to make them come true. You must have a plan. Do your research. Make sure you are PREPARED in all aspects. You must also have inspiration to keep you motivated. You can cry along the way when it's becoming more challenging but don't you dare give up once you start to take your first step towards your goal achievement. 

Ah, you know what's so great when you achieved it? When you succeeded? The happiness of your loved ones. The other thing is that you'll be able to experience more things in life. Then you can tell you children in the future how you succeeded in making your dreams come true. It's good to have dreams in life. Then if you turn them into goals it feels exciting as you try to achieve them. Once you have them, it feels amazingly crazy when you tell people that you are living your dream. Your goal that once a dream is now your life. Get what I mean? Hah! Oh well, that's it. As what I said before, MISTAKES are okay, but REGRETS? It sucks. Wishing you did something when you had a chance but you were so scared and careful not to risk anything. Asking yourself, "what if I did it?", "what if I tried?", WHAT IF?

Do something that you can do today. While you can, TRY.. at least TRY.

This is just one of the entries that I'll post about working and living in Singapore. Watch out for more. :)

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Papa Jack Quotes

Here are some of the tweets that I read from Papa Jack's twitter profile. Papa Jack is a popular DJ in the Philippines who is known to be a very funny and smart person especially when it comes to giving love advice to his callers and listeners. Btw, the quotes are mostly in Tagalog. Follow him on Twitter @PapaJackQuotes



Ang isa sa pinakanakakatakot na dahilan ng pakikipaghiwalay ay yung napagod na sya.

Yun lalaking proud na proud sayo, hindi dahil sa maganda ka. Kundi dahil sakanya ka.

Minsan ang katalinuhan nakakasira ng relasyon yan. lagi kang tama sa relasyon.

Sa relasyon hindi pwede kayong maging leader. Kailangan yung isa mag-utos at yung isa sumunod.

Kung naiparamdam mo sa kanya na importante sya. Wag mong kakalimutan na importante ka din.

Ang pakikipagrelasyon trial and error yan. Pag nagtry ka tas umiyak ka, error yan. After mong umiyak, try again. 

You have to draw a clear line kung hanggang saan ka pwedeng balewalain ng taong pinapahalagahan mo. 

Bakit selosa ang mga babae? Simple lang. Dahil mahal ka niya.

Love like crazy; lose yourself; stand on the edge; expect to be hurt; cry like a baby and best of all. LOVE AGAIN.

Hindi naman 24hrs busy ang tao, kaya di sapat na dahilan ang sabihin na kaya di ka nya mabigyan ng oras dahil sa busy sya.

Ang away, part yan ng every relationship. You will never learn how to fix things kung hindi kayo nag-aaway. 

Kung may mali sa partner mo, wag mong iwanan. I-guide mo. 

Any partnership is never a competition. It doesn’t matter kung ilang efforts or sacrifices na ang nagawa mo. 


Pag nagseselos ang mahal mo, imbes na sabihin na. Wala ka bang Tiwala sakin? dapat mong sabihin ay. Ano kaba, Mahal na mahal kita.


Huwag mong hintaying mawala sayo yan bago mo marealize na hindi pala kumpleto ang mundo mo ng wala sya sa buhay mo.

Mainam pa yung parang kayo pero di kayo. Kaysa sa kayo nga pero parang di naman. 


Bakit kayo maghihiwalay? Kung pwede naman gawan ng paraan.


You will never learn how to fix things kung hindi kayo nag-aaway. 

Tandaan mo, walang taong perpekto. Kaya kung may pagkukulang siya, basahin mo ulit yung unang sentence.

Give yourself a liitle respect to walk away from someone who doesn't see your worth.


Kung mag sosorry, mag sorry nalang, wag na i-justify pa.


Huwag kang maggirlfriend if you don't know how to value your girl. 


Isa sa mga bagay sa mundo ang hindi mo pwedeng bilhin ay ang "Kiligin".


Masakit para sa isang girlfriend na may ibang babaeng mas maganda kesa sa kanya sa paningin ng boyfriend nya.

Ang selos ay sign na mahal mo ang isang tao. 

Gusto mo ba ng taong makikita lang ang value mo kapag wala kana? Pero pag anjan siya binabaliwala mo lang.

Mahalaga sa mga babae na naaalagaan, di enough ang text or fb, kailangan yakapin, masabihan na kayo ang pinaka Maganda sa mundo.

Yung kawalan ng oras, pambabalewala, at hindi pag-intindi sayo ay sapat na para matauhan ka.

Never expect anything in return when you love. Dahil may tendency na lumaki lang yung disappointment.

Pagmamahal, Ang tanging bagay na nakakapagod pero hindi mo kayang pagsawaan.

Ang tunay na nagmamahal, marunong lumunok ng pride.

Wala yan sa tagal o taon. Sa pinagsamahan yan.

Ang lalake, hanggang kaya lumusot, lulusot. Sometimes, you have to pause and look to her perpective, baka nasasaktan na sya. 


Ang girls given na maramdamin yan. 


Pahalagahan mo ang taong hindi sumusukong mahalin ka. Dahil sa mundo, maaaring maraming tao, pero di ka makakakita ng kagaya nya.

Obligasyon ng mga boyfriend na i-secure ang feelings ng girlfriend nya.

Ang mga babae, kapag hindi mo inintindi yung mga sinasabi nila. tatahimik lang yan. Tas di mo namamalayan, mawawala na sila sayo. 


You don’t need to be a perfect guy para ipagmalaki ka niya. You just have to have that emotion of wanting to take care of her.


Natatamaan lang yang pride mo kaya akala mo sobrang sakit na. 

Ang relasyon ay laging may pagsubok, ang kailangan nyo lang ay ang faith. 

Pabayaan mo na ang pride, madali lang namang itulog yan. Ang importante hindi mawala ang taong mahal mo.

Di mo kailangan ng lalakeng magiging sunud-sunuran sayo. kailangan mo ay ang lalaking kakapit kahit na anong bagyo ang dumating.

Kapag nakakita ka ng tao that would make you feel needed and loved, huwag mo ng hayaang mawala yan.

Ang effort hindi yan binibilang. Ginagawa dapat yan kasi mahal mo sya.

Ang long distance relationship, hindi imposible pero challenging yan. 

Kung talagang mahal mo sya, lahat ng efforts na ginagawa mo, hindi mo isusumbat.

The best I love yous are said during bad times. 


Kasi kapag inlove ka, you define corny as romantic pero kapag di ka inlove, you define romantic as corny.


Kapag ang isang bagay sa isang relasyon ay napag-awayan nyo na, huwag na ninyong ungkatin pa. Napag-awayan na eh. 

Wala namang tamang recipe ang love. parang adobo, iba't iba ang timpla. nasa tao parin nakasalalay ang magiging lasa nito.

Walang nawawalang babae sa lalaking nag-aalaga ng tama. 

Kung talagang mahal mo ang isang tao, isipin mo pa lang na mawawala sya sa buhay mo, nanlalambot ka na.

Ang mga lalaki naturally insensitive. 

Kapag sinabi ng babae na they want security, they are not talking about money, they're referring about emotions.

When was the last time na sinabihan mong maganda ang girlfriend mo? You have to appreciate her because small things matter to her.

Magulang ang nagturo na magmahal tayo unconditionally.

Minsan sa buhay natin makaka-kilala tayo ng tao na makaka-pagpabago sa atin.

Sometimes sa isang relasyon kahit wala kang kasalanan, you apologize.

Ang panliligaw natatapos yan kapag sinagot ka na. pero ang panunuyo walang katapusan yan.


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Ups and Downs



Once you find someone to share your ups and downs, downs are almost as good as ups.
~Robert Brault

It feels good to be in love especially if it's your first time to feel it. I love that feeling and I want to feel that over and over again with the same person that I chose to love. It's great to be childish sometimes, act cute, ask how much he loves you, etc.. It feels so good to love and be loved like it's your first love. The only difference is that this time you're so determined to make sure that the mistakes of the past won't happen in your present and soon to be your future.

Pet names. Too much PDA. Simple sweet surprises. Cute couple stuffs. Branding he/she is taken (by giving your partner a ring or anything that will tell any guy that look at her know that you already have her). Hmmm.. what else.. seems to be so childish right? But we girls just love it especially when you show other people how proud you are to have us.. that will eventually somehow boost our self esteem.. i guess.. haha! I always talk about love.. love.. love.. i love too much.. maybe that's why whenever i'm hurt it feels like hell haha! Anyway, I really hope I can start blogging our experiences here in SG.. I'll try to write about it this weekend. 

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Taken for Granted...



Relationships and Being Taken for GRANTED
By Kelly P. Turner

Taking someone for GRANTED is an ACT committed by all individuals at some point in their lives. What's more, the role will reverse and we will do the same. It's human nature but not kind at all.

When GOD blesses you with someone or something who inspires you to be and do better, who sacrifices themselves to make sure you are okay, who has your best interest at heart, never take that person for GRANTED, Never ASSUME that that person will always have your back. As quick as GOD blesses you with one of his Angels, he can change that person's heart and remove them from you. Don't become so comfortable because you know that person is there for you, it will backfire. 


Even if you never have to ask for help, even if that person looks forward to helping you, even if that person foresees an issue and jumps in and helps NEVER EVER, assume that he/ she will ALWAYS come to your rescue.

Sure it's nice to know that you have been very good to a person, but being taken for granted is unacceptable. 

When one helps and doesn't want to see you hurting or in a bind, this person really cares for or LOVES you. When you love someone, sacrificing yourself goes along with territory, however, gratitude and appreciation needs to be not only expressed but shown. The last thing one needs is to feel unappreciated or taken for granted, That will make a person look at you differently or feel as though you are using them. A part of the problem with taking someone for granted is you have become spoiled to their good deeds. Also, instead of asking, you hint around about your problems, hoping they will rescue them.  Not only that, NEVER tell a person, "I don't have to ask, because I know you will offer." THAT is a CLASSIC example of taking someone for GRANTED. You are assuming they will be there for you, YOU ARE TAKING THAT PERSON FOR GRANTED. The sad part is you don't even know it, you have probably become spoiled to being treated very well by this person, something you may not be used to, so you slowly become ungrateful. It natural to unconsciously take someone for granted especially if he/she is always nice to you, but if your loved one, expresses this to you, it is because he/she FEELS it and you have been warned. Now if you deny taking someone for granted, chances are you will continue or until your loved cuts you off or leaves. At that point you realize your bad behavior, since now you realize what you had and now ITS GONE. Whether you ask or not, NO-ONE has to do anything for you, NO-ONE. You should be grateful that someone loves you enough to care for you when you are faced with many obstacles. Relationships have been ruined because of ungrateful people.


At some point in our lives, we all take someone for granted and we are all taken for granted. What's more important is, when approached with this issue, don't deny or shy away, people know when they are being taken for granted, Also, if the person decides to NOT help you, leaving their presence is a great sign of not appreciating their efforts or being ungrateful.  It's almost like, since you didn't help me, I may as well leave.  THAT IS TAKING SOMEONE FOR GRANTED. So here is what I suppose you do if you feel you are being taken for GRANTED.

Stop helping that person
Don't offer anymore help, generally when you take something away from someone they learn to appreciate and not repeat the same behavior
Discuss it with your Partner/Friend
Learn to say no
Don't sacrifice yourself
Allow that person to find another way

At the end of the day, you will lose a very good thing when you continue to take someone for granted. Also if you continue to give, you will start to feel used and then become angry and that can lead to more problems.

It's rude and selfish to take someone for granted and the best way to teach someone like this, is to TAKE YOUR KINDNESS back and let them see exactly what he/she had.  But by then, it's usually too late. So, appreciate what GOD has blessed you with and show your gratitude. Treat that person like today is there LAST DAY.

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Cheating...


Years ago I often wonder.. the next time I'll fall will it last? If it does, will it be that easy? I guess not.

I know people who have been through different stages in their relationship. Some broke up because of simple misunderstandings. Some because of cheating. But you know what, in the end they still managed to get back together and continue loving each other. I admire them so much. Why? Because if it happened to me.. if I've been cheated.. I don't know if I can forgive and forget.. I guess I'll leave and forget no matter how long will it take. Forgiving is easy, but forgetting is close to impossible for me.

I've been cheated once. Worst part is I knew about it when our relationship ends. Cheating, see how unforgettable it is for me? I can't forget not because I haven't moved on. I can't forget because it's something I must not experience again. It's also something I' won't do because I know how hard it is especially for the one being cheated.

Everytime I think about being in a long time relationship I always think that I might get so used to it that I'll get tired and I won't be as sweet as I am when the relationship is just new. But I was wrong. Now that I'm in an almost 2-year relationship I noticed how I did not change. I don't know if it's good or bad haha! I've been sweeter than before. I love him even more. I still miss him when we're not together. I still wait for his messages on my phone. I still love talking about him.

I wrote this because I dreamed that I was cheated by someone that I love so much.. someone to whom I'll give everything thay I can give. In my dream it hurts so much but I know if it happens in real life the feeling is something I can't properly describe. I guess I woke up crying. I think I'm just so afraid to be cheated on again.

Anyway I trust Gyun Wo.. I know he's different. I guess the sweetest he told me that I never forgot is this: 'You're all I need'. I don't know if he still remember that but yeah.. he sent me sms with that message.

As what an actress said in a movie I recently watched: 'TRUST...big word.'

Cheating whether intentional or accidental is something that can definitely hurt someone. If for others they can forgive and forget.. in my case.. I'll probably forgive but forget? Not so sure.. second chance is not in my dictionary if we're talking about cheating. I'm someone who will never cheat so I don't want to be cheated too.

Your partner is not perfect.. same goes with you..

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PDA...

PDA stands for Public Display of Affection. I used to feel irritated when I see couple showing so much sweetness in public like hugging, kissing, etc. But now I realized that in some countries it's no big deal as long as it's not too much. If you're so sweet in a way that you are french kissing for a minute in public, then get the hell away from public and get a room!

Anyway, I wrote about this because I find it sweet for men to show sweetness towards their partner. For women it's nothing but normal to act cute, childish, sweet when they're with their partner, but for men to do that? For some they might consider it as not a very manly thing to do, and that those things should only be done by us, women..which by the way is wrong!

For me, I find someone more attractive when he does extraordinary sweet things for his partner whether in private or public. Holding hands whether you're with your family or friends or somewhere else, posting your photos or posting just about anything about your partner, etc...



Isn't it sweet for your partner to do those things. I mean, can't expect that he or she'd always do those stuffs especially when the person is really not that expressive, but once in a while, it will be really great if you'd try to do that. It's like you telling 'hey look at how great it is to have a partner like him/her'

I wrote it because I just noticed a friend of mine who is a 'guy' who loves posting sweet stuffs for her girlfriend and I just find it really admirable. He is incredibly sweet. They've been together for years already but it's as if they've just started being couple weeks ago. So sweet.

Sometimes girls would also love to know that you are proud to have them in your life. A little sweetness in public won't hurt your pride, right? Sometimes you can't just show that sweetness in private.. it's much better if you'll sometimes make the whole world know how proud and thankful you are to have her. Well, maybe I'm being so demanding right now, but trust me, we, girls just love those stuffs! ^.~


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